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He's been gone 10 months, lives at his mom's, been throughout two girlfriends, he's been hurt, still doesn't want to come home "don't love you, haven't loved you...blah blah blah", oh and he has cofessed to multiple one night stands prior to D-day 10 months ago. So where do I go from here? Two weeks before Christmas decided to invite him a lot, spend time together, see if he fall back in love type thing. Thing is he never turned me down, sometimes suggested alternate times. Could have been just the holidays but of course I want it to be more. Went well, we were even intimate one nite (not putting all my eggs in that basket!), trying to make more deposits than withdrawls. But I really wonder, should I be going here. Some days we slip right back into the same old ugly we were had before. Any ideas to let me know I'm not on a wild run-a-round
Age 35
Kids: 2 girls 3 and 5
D-day:April 18, 2006
10/06 says doesn't want to ever come home
H dumped by girlfriend #2 12/15
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Based on your description of his activities, why on earth would you want him back?
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He sounds very immature, or perhaps is a serial cheater. It's no fair your life is on hold due to his behavior.
If you are not in IC, you should consider it. You may be co-dependent on your WH.
Lastly, it would be in your best interest to call the Harley's and tell them about your sitch, and see what they suggest.
My own opinion is that you start taking the actions to properly prepared to move on.
Last edited by shattered dreams; 01/18/07 08:33 PM.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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rufftimes, do you believe you can change him?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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