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Good day to all,
I have been seeing Gfriend 4 months. I just came back from China after a 1 month holiday. We called every day when I was on holiday. Gfriend was so happy to see me. We have been seeing every day since the 16th (I came back on the 16th). Gfriend spend 2 nights ago at my place for the first time. I saw her yesterday and on the end of the night she text me the following after I asked her why is she so cold towards me.
I’m sorry to tell u, but I think I need some time for myself. Sort out what is going on in my mind. Everything is messed up in my head before you came back. And after last night I’m too confused to be with anybody….I am sorry.
I asked is there anybody else and should I wait for her? She answered no one else I believe her. She said it is over at the moment…..
Her back ground…..she was using drugs but has been off for 3 years. Her best friend and work mate left few months ago to work in another country and this has been too much for her to be with out this friend.
Her social worker\friend said that she thinks that this girlfriend might be using drugs again.
What should I do, leave her on her own or try to be there for her. I would like to be there for her because I love her. How can I be there…..text and try to phone…..as for a Plan A?
Van
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vanas, she is breaking up and I would heed her wishes and move on. This was an experiment that didn't pan out. Good to see ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Listen to Mel, she is right on the mark (as usual <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />). Your Gfriend is moving on, regardless of whether she's doing drugs or what. Save yourself some heartbreak and put her in your past. As Mel said "heed her wishes", as she's stating what's best for the both of you!
Best wishes,
SD
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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I firmly believe that a bond that does not include the paperwork and rings can be as strong as any marriage. It sounds to me from your GF's words that she has met another... and yes, I know you believed her.
You only have four months invested in this... not years. Heck, at four months, I don't even introduce a date to my son.... so, please keep this all in perspective.
If it is meant to work out... it will... but let her go for now and see what happens. In the meantime... try and figure out "you."
Good luck and I am sorry for your hurt.
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Mel and SD, thanks for the wake up call,
True time to move on....Yeah I was lost there thinking that I should try to help her, if it is drugs she is using or what ever her reason is. It is her decision if she wants me in her life or not and she does not want me so yeah then that is it time to go...I know I did all I could and do I really want to get involve in this kind of life?
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I was lost there thinking that I should try to help her she did not ask for your help Pep
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MK,
¨Keep this all in perspective¨, yes good point and I will take all your(MB)advice and move on.
Thanks
Van
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