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While I realize my FWH is going to notice other women and find some attractive, is it ok that he glances more than once? I seem to be noticing this and I don't know if I'm making something out of nothing or not, yes I have lost alot of self esteem since finding out about his ons. Is this ok?
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Does it make you feel ok?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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when my husband, the venerable Mr Pep, glances at another woman ... I lick his earlobe ... and moan that pretty much changes his focus back to me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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and ... if I were to glance with admiration at some dude ... while Mr Pep was next to me ... if Mr Pep licked MY earlobe ... he'd be rewarded later ... you'bet'cha'booties
in other words ... ACT in a way that gets YOU the results YOU want ... don't just have an emotional reaction to what H does ... and internalize stuff to hurt yourself more
make him YOUR MAN
with loving actions
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I lick his earlobe ... and moan
that pretty much changes his focus back to me WHATTA HO!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> lol
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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dat's me alright-y
da happyhousewifeho
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Mel and Pep--
I hope when I am older, I have as much fun as you, too! Ya'll crack me up!
Intexas
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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intexas, don't encourage her!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mel and Pep--
I hope when I am older, I have as much fun as you, too! Ya'll crack me up!
Intexas hunny Tex for you, that will be in just about 30 years ! Pep <~~~ geriatric MBer with good bone structure <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Thanks girls I like that. I just don't want to make something out of something not there. I know it started when I found out about his ons. I guess anymore I don't know what is normal and appropriate and what's not. It does bother me when I see him look at someone a few times, they are quick glances but don't really know what's behind it. I try to ask and usually he denies even seeing the person or he'll say I saw them but didn't pay attention. Well thanks for your input. I worry about what he does when I'm not there.
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