Here is the situation! My sister is having major problems in her marriage. She has been married for 16 years. She has 2 kids with her H. He never wants to have sex period. She goes for a year or so with no affection at all. Yesterday she found a picture of him with 2 male friends while he was on a business trip. They were with 3 women. When she confronted him, he told her that he already told her about them, then when she said no you didn't he told her another story. He told her that they were egging him on because he was the only married one and he was being a party pooper. He was weaing this girls scarf around his neck, and she had on his sunglasses. He swore to her that he was not being unfaithful. She dosen't know whether to believe him or not since He travels all the time nor does he act interested in her. She is at wits end and is wanting to start going through all his stuff. I tried to offer some advice, but I really don't know what she should do. I personally think she has wasted her time with him, because I don't think he really loves her. <P>------------------<BR>

I think a 16 year old marriage is worth fighting for. He maybe loves her, but he is too pre-occupied to show her, or realize it himself.<P>She should snoop. She should snoop snoop snoop or hire a PI. It is much better that she have full evidence, so he doesn't make her out to be a suspicious paranoid jealous wife. She needs to know this for herself. <P>Tell your sister that you believe her, and offer to help find the truth. But also, tell her about lovebusting - that is a big no no....<P>Get back to us and tell us how things are going.<P>She doesn't have internet? Then maybe you can give her some information on the site about affairs, print it off for her. If she is lacking in affection, that is a sign of a marriage that needs attention, regardless if he cheated/s.

Sounds like a real creep to me! I don't have any answers to this one. I only know what I would do...RUN. I know that sounds easier said than done. He is not giving her any affection and now he wants to play around? A tough situation. <P>Just be there for her and let her know you are. I have found that with sisters the best advice is no advice. She will have to make this decision on her own. Be her support!

Thank you guys! I have told her about this web site and suggested reading Dr. Harley's book, His Needs Her Needs. I guess she still has her head in the sand about what she is doing with her life. I think she needs to get more evidence too.