I know it is a good idea to send my H love notes, but why do I still hesitate? I know I have nothing to lose but I'm still afraid of upsetting him. I know by doing nothing, nothing may happen but I am afraid if I do something, he may push for a divorce.<BR> I said in a earlier post I wish I could have a hint as to what is happening to him, but that is almost impossible unless he calls or writes a letter. I'm two hours away and he doesn't see any of our old friends so there is no way for me to find out anything. I guess that is what makes it hard.<BR> I do plan on sending him a love note but now I am afraid to do it very often. I start to think I will do every week, but then I'm afraid that is too much.<BR> His mail is going to her house I don't even know if he gets anything. <BR> I am so tired of living this way. Afraid to do anything and tired of second guessing myself. <BR> The only thing I do know for sure is I love him and want him to come back. <BR> It scares me to think how long this can go on. It already seems like an eternity, and it has only been 6 1/2 months since I found out. <P>------------------<BR>di<BR>

How about starting off with a how are you note instead of a love note. Work up to the love note. Got to get "your foot in the door" first.<P>How are you doing? I thought I'd write to see if things are going well. Call or write me to let me know. Hope to see you soon<P>Love you<P>Something like that, short, not too intrusive, but caring. Worth a shot.

SDS - It IS scary. I send letters each week and the first few scared me to death. Then I found out he enjoyed them and looked forward to getting them. So - I go on. Besides, I get to talk w/ him that way.<P>Mine aren't really love notes. Letters from home is a more apt description. Newsy, entertaining, concerned, with just a itty bitty love thing in each one. Hasn't come home, but he isn't throwing them away either.<P>I send mine to his mom's. Any way you could send them somewhere else? Work or something? Just for assurance he would get them and have some privacy to read them.<P>Go for it. Let him know you care without pushing too hard. IMHO, it sure can't hurt.<P>Lori

I send email daily to my wife.<BR>(sometimes 2 or three times)<BR>(OM used to do that... probably doesn't now)<P>I discovered 6 month ago (to the day).<P>My wife has been out for about 6 weeks...<BR>with her OM(sponge) living in her apartment.<P>I can't send snail mail or anything regular mail since he will just throw it out!<P>She rarely responds to the email...<BR>and calls my messages of love "Harassment"...<P>I will just continue...<P>The day she gets sick of him...<BR>or he gets sick of her...<BR>she will have an email ready for her!<BR>(I don't want to miss that day!)<P>Just do it.<BR>If you are ignored...<BR>Know that you are also loved.<P>Jim