My husband and I are just recovering from a 3 week battle. We were both very angry and said and did a LOT of hurtful things. Most of those days I wanted to give up and I am sure he did on many of them as well. I finally put my feelings down on paper, 3 pages worth. After another 24 hours he shared with me what he thought of my letter, and not in a good way. He ripped me apart from one end to the other. By the time it was over I had told him I was done. No more fixes. It was over. He said, no honey, lets get counseling. Find us a counselor we both believe in and I'll try. I told him I was done. For the last 3 years, I have read the marriage books over and over, spent hours on websites, all trying to find a "Quick Fix". His resolve has been in our love. Always believing we can fix things ourselves. I told him if he wanted to fix things, then he could find us a counselor or go to Marriage Builders and find some answers. He did. He came and reread Dr. Harley's Concepts and it honestly helped. While we have a long road ahead, we both realize it isn't going to be a quick fix and it will require outside resources. The one thing that really helped both of us was a comment he made to me after all of the fighting was over...

"No matter how bad our worse day is, it can't be worse then being apart." That is so true. When I had finally told my mind that it was over and the reality of spending every day without him struck home, I felt like I was going to die. I wasn't afraid of being alone, or of how my son would handle the divorce, or how people would look at me. The only thing that I could think of was losing him.
Any how, thanks Marriage Builders for being here!