I'm sure this all sounds familiar to everyone thats been here for a long time, but I needed to get it out.

I've been married to my wife for the past 12 years. I'm 38 and she's 36. For the most part our marriage has been filled with good times, We've built a good family (2 girls) have a nice home, have good jobs, and talk openly. 2 years ago she met a guy at work who hung out with her on smoke breaks, and worked her over verbally everyday at lunch until she felt more than friendship. Needless to say, they had an affair, until I found out, then it broke apart. I kept my cool, and moved out . She called and pleaded for me to come back. I did.. She told me what was missing in her life, and I worked like crazy to fix the problems. Everything seemed to be going ok, until last month when she became somewhat cold, and down. It got to the point where I could not stand it anymore, and I asked her what was up. Nothing she said...
World of Warcraft is a great game, and my wife loves it! I'm not as big into it as she is, and she's made many good friends. Anyway, long story short. I loged into the game with her character and was suddenly surprised to see messages being sent from some guy who said he was madly in love, and really enjoyed the other night of virtual sex that they had. I cant wait to finally meet you when you come up!! Imagine my surprise. I felt sick to my stomac. I quickly left the game, and found that her email was left open, and made the mistake of reading a couple of messages. I'll leave the rest to you.


Is this like the dirty sock syndrome? Is it time for her to toss the old socks?? I give her space, I take her out, I spend time watching movies with her. I tell her everyday I love her, and I surprise her with little things from time to time. I dont sit in front of the TV all day drinking and wathing football. I do 80% of the housework, and I love her more than anything!!!


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We talked about this, and again I was a gentleman, and this time she says, that she does not love me anymore!?! She wants out, and I can have the kids, house, and everything else!?! She is still here, but it's only a matter of time. I'm begging for her to stay, and I'm pleading for someway that I can fix this problem that she has. I'm lost, just like the thousands of others who want this to work.



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Davedmc


Can you get that in writing?
It amazes me that a woman would leave her children, a loving husband and stable home for a virtual partner!

My FWH almost did the same thing. Met someone online and had an EA which eventually turned into a PA. I too was sick to my stomach. I suspected then and I believe now that this was due to MLC. We have since gone to MC and IC and are working to recover. Please continue to post here. There are some really great people who can help guide you in your quest to recover your M.


Please look over all the information on this web site. Read everything you can so that you will be prepared. Buy the books SAA + HNHN.
In the meantime, collect all the emails as evidence in protection of you and your children should the worst happen. Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best.

Thoughts and prayers are with you. You are not alone!

MyBad

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Hello Dave mc.

I am really sorry you are here! Welcome, this is the best place to get great advice.

I am not an expert. All I can say from now is:

Dont believe anything she says, she is a WS, it really hurts all their fog talk, but it just that.

So, please stay calm, take care of yourself, it's very important, hard but a must.

Second, Can you snoop some more?

She's must be in great fog to say she's leaving everything for an "online" friend.

Do you have any idea as for how long this is going on? Have they met in RL? Whos is that "looser"do you know anything about him? Is he married?
Can you find anymore info on him?
(Log into that game with your char, talk to their close friends, guild mates, eventually expose the affair there...)

READ all MB side, principals, the boards.

Make a Plan. My humble sugestion, if you want to save your marriage?

PLAN A, eventually re-start playing WOW, she wont be confortable with you there at the same time its a way of being with her.

All this only if you cant get her to quit game, establish NO CONTACT. I am assuming this is the case, since she says she wants to leave everything.

Well my opinion, I am sure the experts will have more effective sugestions.

Hang in there and be strong.

Willow, not so lost anymore, thanks to MB and Pio