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Yes, you should reveal your cyber affair to your husband.
You should also seriously consider annuling the marriage until the both of you are truly ready to commit to marriage. Right now, by all that you've described, neither of you are mature enough to handle it.
Both of you cheated on each other either before your marriage or after...not much of a foundation to build from.
Sorry if I'm coming across harsh, but there just doesn't seem like a lot to build your marriage on, IMHO. This early in the game, you're supposed to be infatuated with each other, not seeking solace somewhere else.
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Well, I apologize for offending you.
Actually, my advice wasn't based pm a projection of my own pain. It was based on the fact that in less than two weeks prior and one week into your marriage, both of you cheated on each other. Based on that, I wouldn't recommend ANY marriage to continue...it wasn't even being judgemental of you, it was a recommendation based off of your and your husband's actions.
I'll not post to your thread again. Good luck to you.
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Be honest with your H. This is an opportunity for you two to have a fresh start. It will be a lot of hard work and while I dont agree with Owl... I understand his perspective.
The fact that you WANT your H to feel pain really concerns me. I would start with honesty... then call the Harley's and then find yourselves a marriage friendly counselor.
Best of luck to you.
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A MC would be working with the two of you together.
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So, basically you are a rude, a-hole. Bye.
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