I will start off by apologizing to you. I do not come across as intended at times on the keyboard. The intent of my words... even on re-read are always very clear to me..and others based on some email feedback I receive. But the intent needs to be clear to the person they are in fact intended for... in this case, you.
I have never wanted anything but the best for you and your M. I do emphatically see things differently than some of the posters to your thread. That is not the first time on MB that has happened.... and even when I have been run off a thread by the majority of posters... frequently I am thanked for my stance at a later time.
But all of that is kind of moot at this time. Since YOU felt that I was trying to bring you down rather than give you another persons perspective. I NEVER said you should bve ashamed of yourself. "It's a shame" is as much a figure of speech as any I can think of. It does not imply in my use that YOU should be ashamed. I have been down the rabbit hole Lilsis. I know what an A can do to a persons self esteem... it is common knowledge. If you read my words right after that post in question... and before your rant... I would hope that you could clearly see that I do support your efforts... even when I do not agree with them (except for the ones that risk your health).
There is a mob mentality on the threads at times. It is just the nature of the communication method here. If you had a question or a rant about my post... one on one, I could explain my intent and make my motives clear... that opportunity does not exist here.
Do I still feel the same way I did last evening. Yes. I do think that it is low self esteem that allows certain things to happen. It is just an opinion and while I can try and see things differently, I incorporate my experience as well as those that I read here into that equation. In your case, I could be wrong.
You have done a wonderful Plan A... of that there is no doubt. Would I have done things differently... perhaps... perhaps not. But as I have said... if it works for you, then you should do it. My role in this discussion forum, as I see it, is to express my opinions and experieces to others. Quite obviously, I need to take into consideration the manner in which I do that. Some people thrive with my communication style... others it rubs the wrong way. I have always said that the forum is like a choir... we all have our role to play ... but our goal is a common one... to sing the song. If I hit a sour note with you or others at times, it is not intentional and certainly NEVER an attempt on my part to knock you down.
So, I will end this quite simply by apologizing for being insensitive with my words. I wish you nothing but happiness and a recovered M. You deserve nothing less.

MEDC