For the past 2 yrs it has been an roller coaster ride for my marriage. 6 mos ago I found out for sure my spouse of 22 years cheated on me with his Boss lady. He denied my suspicions for the previous 1.5 years that she wanted more than a working relationship with him and when I had undeniable proof I confronted him. He left for a few days but called constantly. He did state that he had "been Bad" and wanted to come home and be with me. I allowed him to come home if he agreed to disconnect from her completely and devote himself to our marriage and family. He came home and took a new job locally. Now I find that the OP has moved back into our area and has been in contact with him. I have not let him know that I am aware of this situation. I have done all that I can to "try" to trust him and believe that he wants this to work. He has over the past 6 mos. acted like this is where he wants to be but for some reason is still allowing communication between the two of them. He will not tell me he Loves me- and it is hard for me to cope with. He will kiss me and replaces the space where I love you should be with have a nice day. Any comments....

Sounds like to me he is clearly still having the affair, whether its physical or emotional or not he is still envolved with her. He 'wants' to me married but is still involved with the other woman. Time to confront and get to some kind of marriage counceling asap.

HB40,

There are huge problem signs here. Repost your thread as soon as possible at the General Questions II forum. There is typically ten times more traffic there including the experts. They will jump in pretty quick.

You will want to elaborate about the OW. Is she married? Be preparred for considerable information regarding exposure. If there is an A happening (sure looks like it) it must be exposed to everyone who will be your ally.

Read now about the Plan A concept at MB. You have come to the right place.

Repost right away at GQII.