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#1813212 01/23/07 12:16 PM
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thanks for editing

your comment was way out of line and I am wondering if it came from a part of you that is wounded in some way

any thoughts?

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anger does not just pop up for no reason

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Pep-

I was rather rude. Probably because I haven't figured out the whole point of ex and my trials. The affair is over, the marriage is over, and WH is suicidal. His kids are stepping up to try to get help for him. OW is looking for another man to "admire".

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you're pissed off at all of this

understandable

you OK?

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Doing fine, Pep. And the men are starting to look good again.

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*snort*

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We interupt this portion of our program for ARKS^^ audition on American Idle......

YO WHAS'UP DOG? says randy...

What are you gonna sing for us doll? (I secretly like it when randy calls me doll)....

I'm gonna sing WHATTA MAN by Salt"N"Pepper...and dedicate it to my friend BELIEVER

My man is smooth like Barry, and his voice got bass
A body like Arnold with a Denzel face
He's smart like a doctor with a real good rep
And when he comes home he's relaxed with Pep
He always got a gift for me everytime I see him
A lot of snot-nosed ex-flames couldn't be him
He never ran a corny line once to me yet
So I give him stuff that he'll never forget
He keeps me on Cloud Nine just like the Temps
He's not a fake wannabe tryin' to be a pimp
He dresses like a dapper don, but even in jeans
He's a God-sent original, the man of my dreams



What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man



DOG!!!!!

WELCOME TO HOLLYWOOD....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Ark jumps in to Ryan Seacrests arms and knocks him on his [email]a@@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/email]

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somebody has got into some bad crack! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Doing fine, Pep. And the men are starting to look good again.

I'm so glad about that, Believer !
As for myself - I can't talk about the plural <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> but one particular man has found his way to my heart.


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Doing the right thing vs being a good boy/girl
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uhhh melody...

there's no such thing as GOOD crack....

DUH!!!!!

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uhhh melody...

there's no such thing as GOOD crack....

DUH!!!!!

I REST MY CASE!! I knew dat silly yankee gal got into some bad crack! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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I think ark is getting herself in gear for American Idol tonight.

I've been anticipating it all day...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Doing fine, Pep.

know what?

I think you are sad as heII

why don't you do a [color:"red"]red [/color]rant about what is really bothering you?

Pep

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ARK is genius

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ARK has "issues.." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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ARK is a genius with issues

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I can not profess to know what is going on for B right now, but since I am also divorced, and also witnessing the continual downward spairal of my Ex - I wonder, B, if perhaps you and I have had a similar thought:

I am so completely disgusted at what has become of my Ex. I do not miss him. I do not miss my life with him. In fact - even though we were married 18 years, it all seems like a distant memory at this point. Like when you look back on your childhood - you have memories from childhood, you know you lived it, but it is very distant.

And I see him continue to make a mess of his life, and I know it effects the boys, and I am disgusted by it. I am disgusted that he wouldn't lsiten to all the people who tried to reach out to him. I am disgusted to have people look at him and say "THATS the man that WOF was married to for 18 years??? Really???" I know that sounds mean - but it is just a fact. this shell of a man that lives in his body, is not the man I was married to. And occasionally he feels the need to stir up trouble - usually by filing for a change in his mediocre child support. And then I think to myself HOW did I end up married to a man who was capable of such destruction?

Anyway - just a vent. thought I would share in case someone else wants to say "Yeah, me too"


Married 18 years
D Day June 25, 2003
Divorced December 17, 2003

Newly married to a wonderful man!
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that's a pretty KEWL sig line you've got there

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Newly married to a wonderful man!


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Congrats, womanoffaith!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Yes, WOF. The first thing I did was change my name back. I'm embarrassed by carrying his name. And it was all so pointless. It is not just the marriages, but the human wreckage in their wake - her husband, daughter, my boys, my 6 step-kids, 13 grandkids, his brother and sister, my sister, my parents - well you get the point.

And on top of that, I'm left trying to understand if he was ever a good man in the first place. I've known him for 20 years, and always admired him. Now he is a broken down excuse for a man. I want him to be well for his kid's sake, but have no desire for any contact with him.

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