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Does anyone know how to check for instant messages. I am across the room from my wh and I keep hearing pings,I see him typing into a box on his screen. the pings stopped after two.How can I find out if he is im'm. thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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This may sound ridiculous to you, but ASK HIM! Don't let this go on under your watch. Just ask, 'hey, who are you talking to?" or something along those lines.
My WH used IM's in his A, so don't put it past your H to do the same. I don't know your sitch, but all Waywards are aliens and don't think this is unusual or CALOUS behavior.
Also, if he turned the volume down on the computer, you won't hear the IM prompt...
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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Thanks, I might try. He has his laptop with him constantly. The only time I can get to it is when he is in the shower. In the internet history i can see where he might be doing this, but it won't take me to the page.
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if he is using yahoo im, go to "contacts", then "message archive" and that will show u the history of messages...but only if he is saving his history...u can set it to where he does and he won't know it...go to "messenger" then "privacy options", then "archive" and choose "yes save all of my messages", then click "apply"....and then close it..that will save all the im's he sends to people...
"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
BS-38 (me)
WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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OK I tried that, I think I have to login to get to contacts. Didn't see that on main page.
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Buy a keylogger and it has a setting to record im's and send them to an e-mail address that you provide. I suggest e-blaster, it will record e-mails, anything typed in.
Me-49, WH-51
Married 02/1983 yrs, Sons - 27, 26, 20
1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
1st D-day - 09/03, D-day 2 - 10/04 D-day 3 05/08
NC e-mail - 11/04- it wasn't real
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