I hope and pray you don't need to.

I guess that I would fit into your "newbie" category. Gee, I am sorry that I might have not posted "correctly". Maybe I should have hung around for awhile and practiced how to post "correctly".
I'm sorry that in all the emotions of my w having an affair and rocking my world I should have thought more about making paragraphs. Hopefully I can become a professional BS someday and learn how to post correctly.
How dare I come here and try ro find some help. Sorry I'm not like the good ol' days.

feel free to post any way you like

I CANNOT SEE WELL

so I do NOT READ long paragraph-less posts

it's OK ... I don't need to read posts I cannot see

what I am asking is that newbies have familarity of the concepts

and if asked to please read the basic concept area ... go do it ... because then we can actually be of service

Pep

rock: none of us are paid to be here. We all want to help. If your post is unreadable, many people will move onto someone else. It's that simple. Your pain notwithstanding. We all make choices to who we will respond to.

RB06,

I too am a BS who hopes to go pro someday and make it big as a major league BS. Sadly I'm still bouncing around the AA league. It hasn't killed my dream though.

BigK,

We've all paid quite dearly to be here.

rock... we all felt pretty much like you do when we arrived. We're not here to judge, we're here to help.

Sometimes we even have a little fun, but it's not intended to be at anyone's expense. This thread is no exception.

Stick around...learn, grow, survive...

plus the "paragraph" issue 100% belongs to FROGNOMORE... please take it up with him

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Pep

I suppose I would be classified as a ~ regular ~ certainly not an expert. And, I do try to mention in my postings that I am not an expert. Just try to give logical, MB advice.

My guess would be that new posters would first be drawn to Just Found Out.. The first 4 posts on that board are specifically noted for Betrayed Spouses.. One would think that they would read those first. If they did - that should clear up alot of what Pep is talking about.

Perhaps posters see the newbies in so much pain and are desperately trying to help them out..which, of course, bad advice is worse than no advice...

Thank God there are so many wise experts here willing and able to help the wounded out.... I know that I would never be in the shape that I am today (well, you know..) without the life-changing advice I was given and I do not mean that lightly ! I would still be LB ing all over the place...

(perhaps the very first time someone signs on this site -- they are automatically routed to the first four posts over on JFO or to the Carrot & Stick link ~ just wishful thinking I guess)

Carnation

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BTW BigK that should be none of us "is" paid to be here Don't worry That confuses me too In case you hadn't noticed I am not only not using paragraphs but I have also decided to eliminate the use of punctuation marks in this post Why you ask Well it has now become clear to me that I can use this method to post anything and everything I want and pepperband will be quite oblivious to it In fact I can even hurl viscious insults at her such as pepperband like box wine Ouch That hurt Now that I don't have to use paragraphs I feel totally liberated I have a new sense of empowerment and freedom I have an exhiliration I havn't felt in a very long time I am starting to think that I could expand the concept to interoffice correspondence emails white papers and perhaps professional publications I might even go so far as to emulate e.c. cummings and eliminate capital letters but that might begin to get very confusing What do you think capitals or no capitals Or is it capitols I never can remember which one it is and I think it was a really bad plan by whoever invented those words What were they thinking anyway As if I don't have enough problems with the language that they have to go and make it even more complicated I'm certain that if I research this that I will find that the french had something to do with it Are you on your vacation yet I thought you would be already in the US by now but I also get confused by dates time zones etc

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I just read this thread for the first time tonight. I have been having the same thought. Actually there is one poster that I have just stopped short of calling out as being a total phony. The thread is taking up a lot of time at this point and there have been some pretty glaring inconsistencies in the story put out there. I guess with my ex profession I really pay attention to detail and when it seems "off" I get suspicious. I remember the last time I felt this way was summer 2006... I will let it go a few more days and see what happens. If these people are trolls, I wonder why they feel the need to come here and waste our time. Oh well....
MEDC.... PIA, BMF,

On a side note... and I will check on replies tomorrow as I am heading to bed... my 11 year old is hitting puberty now and I was wondering if anyone has a suggestion for age appropriate reading material for him to digest. NO, BK... not Playboy! We have a very open relationship and talk quite freely so it would be more of an adjunct to our talks. Thanks for your help.

LOL MEDC - you don't know me very well if you think I would have suggested that..

What sorts of things does he like?

noodle <----- lit geek

I apologize for my earlier post.I meant no harm.

Lad, a Dog

The Black Stallion series

Harry Potter

Don't worry about it Rock. I was a real mess when I got here. I clung to the message board, reading every day for a couple of months before I posted. I STILL haven't read SAA. Maybe THAT'S why I ended up divorced!!!!!