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I am so sad today. I know this is going to sound childish, but i thought we had a deal. We had four lovely children, we were going to grow old together, we would take care of each other, we were going to travel as the kids got older.

I never wanted to be a single mom
I never wanted to be alone like this
I never wanted to feel so regected

I am so sad. I want the alien to give me back my dh.

He has so much to lose. His kids, his life, me, the ones who really love him, regardless of his bumps we loved him. I miss him so much.

The wound that you have is so fresh, and is not being healed, but being reopened everytime you get it to scab over.

Can you talk to us about what is happening that conicides with the feelings that you are describing? What events of the day, week, month have you experienced, what is happening with he and OW? Have you exposed to all involved? Where is your WH living? Maybe describe more of the situation that you are in, so that we can help you to move from this place of desperation, to a Plan.

He travels for business about 4 days a week. He doesnt talk to me at all during that time. He spends all his free time with his lover in other cities either on phone or in person. The kids know that there is trouble but not the extent. Dad is sleeping on the couch. When he comes home he acts like I dont exist and plays super fun dad. Taking the kids and spending money we dont have. He has said that it is over, that there is nothing left.

My family and his family knows, owh knows.

My family lives too far away and is on shaky ground. I dont have any friends to confide in, just the councilor. I havent had many close friends in the last few years because of the demands of 4 kids and wh. I dont like dumping problems on others and it seems that others dump on me quicker than I can dump on them so I try to fix their problems and stress out.

Added to the mix I am a full time student and I am in such a competative program I cant move away at least until next summer. Wh wont tell me what his plans are, if he is moving out, if he is staying. If wh leaves there will not be enough money to pay the mortgage the car payments et al and I will end up having to file bankruptcy.

I feel lonely all the time. I cry all the time. I am barely pulling together the very basics of living like getting the kids fed.

I was doing ok when he was still trying to pull it back together, now that he has decided he is done, I have nothing to do really. Except worry and feel sad.

Story: When I was a kid I had a cat that hated our dog. It would harrass the dog all day long, not just playing but being mean to it. The dog died and the cat went totally bonkers and licked off all it's fur. This went on for months until we got a new dog. The cat had something to harrass and all it's fur grew back.

While I do not, did not harrass my wh, now that he is gone I feel like I am doing the same thing. Licking off all my fur, the longer he is gone the worse I feel. I am getting no help in understanding what life will be like from now on and the uncertainty is killing me.

I "think" that the owh knows, but only about 95%. I have not contacted him. What do you think of this letter?

I have contemplated calling you or writing you to tell you of the ongoing affair between your wife and my husband. I hope that you are already aware of the affair, but if ow has told you nothing is going on or that she has told you that the affair is over, it is not. The affair has been going on since approximately June of 2004. I found out in October. wh has decided that he no longer wishes to work on our marriage. I am letting you know this so that if you decide to try to save your marriage my husband is working as a free agent and I have every expectation that he will try to continue to be with your wife. I am very sorry owh, I had no part in them deciding to do what they have done, but he is a member of my family and I feel responsibility for the chaos this must have done to your family. If you need anything from me, emails, photos or video let me know and I will forward them on to you.

Once again owh, I am sorry. I hope that when wh told me that you knew that he was telling me the truth. Otherwise this is probably a very big shock. I have enclosed my cell, and email address if you wish to talk with me

At the advise of my priest and my councilor I called an attorney. Brutal truth is that if he just stopped having his checks deposited I would be toast. So I have to protect myself and the kids.

I am so sad. I never thought that this is the way it would go. I think I truly hate him now.

Got a call from the attorney. The papers are ready to be signed. This will have him served and request spousal and child support and require him to move from the house by june 1. It is not a final divorce decree only an order for temporary support until the divorce is final.

Why am I resisting going to the lawyer and sign? He even stooped so low as to get the kids all dressed up for a funeral, I let him because it was one of his coworkers, then figured out that she was there. He was just going to show off our children.

He put back on his wedding ring, when asked why, said he was tired of people asking questions. When he is here, we are pleasant and civil, but I get really anxious when he looks at his email and blackberry. I know at least some of the time it is her. He sleeps in the spare bedroom and is spending money like it is going out of style.

He told me that he has tried to not offer me any emotional support for the last 5 years. I wish he had sent me a memo, because I have tried everything I could, even things that in retrospect make my skin crawl like having sex with him when he was still having sex with her, I didnt know but still.

He is gone more often than he is here, I know he was planning on moving when summer hits, so this only makes it so that I am protected.

So why am I so sad? Why am I afraid? Why am I still hoping that I will not have to do this? I know that even if they were never to speak to each other again, that the marriage is still dead. I can fight and struggle all I want but it still doesnt change that he isnt trying to fight for his own soul, his family or me.

or even a 2/4.