I just found out today my wife has been having a PA for the last 3 weeks, EA before that. 3 weeks ago, she told me about PA with a DIFFERENT guy 6 months ago.

She is definately in the FOG everyone describes. I see no reason to work on things given that the 3 weeks I have known about the first PA, she elected to have another one when she had claimed she was thinking about our future!

I am so furious I cant think straight - any advice appreciated. It is like to ethics and morals of the person I married disappeared 5 months ago.

Also can anyway advise on AD's as I think I need them at this point.

Need background.

How long have you been married, are there kids, what were the issues in your marriage, etc...?

Advice on AD's...go see your doctor and get on them today. They DO help you think more clearly through this.

4.5 years married, no kids, known each other about 8 years almost. 7 years were good, last year not so good, PA started in August and September (two with same guy). EA started (new guy) mid November, PA started a few days into January (few days after WW told me about previous PA and was supposedly thinking about our future, instead while I was doing that she was sleeping with this guy. Essentially it took her only 6 weeks from EA contact (Internet) to meeting in person and the PA!

The from a person supposedly Catholic, married for life, etc. Fog speak has been going on since first PA occured, didnt know it at the time though.

Seems hopeless to me, hardest 3 weeks of my life. Supposedly she still isnt sure about divorce and says I am her friend, yet friends dont do this to each other in my book.

I had just started a plan A but given the new news I guess Plan B is the only choice.

4.5 years M'd with no kids?

You may want to consider plan D instead. Two As within 4.5 years suggests serial cheating... and considerable turmoil down the road for you in this M if you elect to continue it.

Whatever you choose to do you need to expose the affairs to everyone that could put pressure on her to end it. Her family, friends, pastor, OM's significant other, parents, etc. I agree that plan D may be your best choice because she has cheated on you twice. But expose anyway. Also, cut off her cell phone and internet, so there isn't a PA number 3.

Exposure is no longer the problem. The women I married was once ethical and moral. Now in 5 months time she has had two ONS with one man, and during the 3 weeks I was trying to come to gripes with how to work on my marriage when I found out about things, she started another PA with another man!

She sees very little wrong with this behavior other than it hurt me - she has no moral or ethical base anymore and seems to not even think it odd to jump in bed with someone she knew online for about 6 weeks while married, right after telling her husband about her first PA.

Hardly the ideal mother of my children (thank god we didnt have kids), hardly a good person, hardly someone I can see it worth saving a marriage with. I think D is the only option, I wish I had pushed for it sooner before she hurt me again with this new PA.

My only hope is one day she feels sorry for what she did and her disrespect for marriage, it is almost like the women I married has regressed back to childhood, and it is pathetic to watch it happen right in front of me.