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WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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If this is not deleted and WW/FIL/MIL read this (as I presume that is why the original poster is asking for it to be deleted):
Do the right thing.
There is NOTHING I have said in here that I wouldn't have said to you (or (to MIL/FIL, your daughter) had the situations been reversed.
This place IS anonymous. You can't be upset because Jayban sought out anonymous HELP and PROTECTION.
READ THE WHOLE WEBSITE...BEFORE YOU JUDGE
YOUR MARRIAGE IS SAVABLE.
MY WIFE AND I DID IT...SO CAN YOU.
Mr. Wondering
Last edited by MrWondering; 02/08/07 05:02 PM.
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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I can see you are monitoring this thread on the "who's on-line" screen.
Why not post?
Tell us your side of the story???
There must be a lot that he hasn't told us.
Whether the marriage survives or not we'd certainly like to help him come to terms with this, become a better individual and father and recovery from this event in his life. Any information you can provide will be greatly appreciated.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Sorry to hear this development. Happens too often. Saving a marriage and family is still honourable and a worthwhile task.
Me:52
W: 52
Married: 32 yrs
2 Sons (29 & 23)
1 Dtr (20)
1 GDtr (2.5) precious little girl
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Jay, if your wife does read this, she will see you have come to a marriage BUILDING website that incorporates proven princiles developed by Dr. Harley. to restore love within marriages. You are not here for revenge or out of hatered. You love your wife and family and would like to have the oppourtunity to be happy together. It can happen and there are many success stories here at MB.
You have learned alot of the things you were doing that damaged your marriage and also learned what you weren't doing to keep your wife emotionally happy and in love.
You are fighting for your marriage and that is honorable. I hope that your wife will see that as the reason for your recent actions.
If your wife is reading this I hope she decides to post here and give us her side of the story as she would certainly be welcomed here.
You are a good man Jay!
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Daughter: 16 yrs old
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D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
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Jay,
If true I'm glad she found this thread. Why?
What she found is a hurt, caring H who has been trying his tail off to better himself and to work on getting his wife back along with loving his DD. All good stuff. You are the man here in this M. Your family needs you and doesn't even know it fully yet.
Give a shot at talking to MIL and FIN this weekend. Get out of the house tonight and do somemthing. Even if you visit a store - get out. No drinking though, not a good idea right now.
Cool your head off. This is far from over man - trust us.
Feel for you and pulling for you and your family.
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Jay,
Cool your jets. Are you sure that she found your thread and isn't just quoting stuff that you sent her FIL?
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Week 7 begins today for this separation, either the M or the A will end this weekend. Vegas odds, anyone? FIL is forcing the choice, I'm relieved despite the unsoundness of it. How about neither? Yeah I said it - neither. The A may go on for now, but not forever and your M may end in D right now, but not forever. I said many times that D is not the end of it. There are members here that have been D and then reM each other again. This is far from over, but I glad that you are finding peace for now anyway. All the best for you and your family.
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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I hear you and don't blame you one bit.
You tried very hard and I am proud of you.
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Jay-
Please don't let her run you off of this board. You have nothing to be ashamed about.
To Ms. Jayban,
I've been where you are- and I was wrong. You have no idea how bad you're going to feel once OM gets tired of you. Oh I know you think that he won't but he will. Then you'll look back and see how you let a good man go and destroyed your family for a piece of crap.
You have no idea of the pain you're going to be in. I know you can't see it now but take it from someone who knows.
I'm happily remarried to a wonderful guy who is not the Other Man, but I will feel guilty forever for my affair.
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