Well, don't know where to start. Wife says she is unhappy and loves me but is not in love with me. Also has started to withdrawl a little. No affection or intamacy. Also says she has no feelings for me, but wants them. We have been married for 16 years with 4 kids. I am so lost right now. This came from nowhere. This is the worst time of my life. If anyone knows of any guidence of help, please say. I want nothong more than for this to work out. She says she wants it to work out too.
Thankyou, lonley and confused in San Diego!

She probably has been where she is until she can't take it any more. Have you guys been on the MB site? For you, go and read all you can, it will Help you immensely.

Good luck.

I had a similar situation but now resolved over a period of time.

But one thing I learnt from all the posts here, for which am really grateful to everyone here, is the fact that a spouse's actions are actually reactions to the other partner's actions - whether that be watching pornography or a wife running away with another man or a husband goin to strip clubs or a couple running into a heated argument r for that matter goin into a withdrawal mode.

I feel that none of those would have happened if we are responsive and understanding to the need of the other partner. I showed a few clips of pornography to my own wife who is always tired. Her tiredness disappeared after that ! Not that we watch pornography on a regular basis - that one instance was once in over a year. We saw a couple having a good time over drinks in the corner of a strip club my wife had heard of and had taken me to. We started enjoying each other's company ever since.

So basically, each of us is looking for some sparks that would make us rediscover herself/himself. It would be a great help if the partners help each other out in finding out that missing link. In the process it becomes a learning process for both the partners and also bring the two together closer. Not sure if I am articulate enough to explain this. But my own experiences have taken me closer to my wife.