Ok, I was just out watering the flowers and discovered that the flood light bulb has been loosened?!?

That means that Drac has been here at night again.

I had no idea. I am trying to remember when the last time was was out there and it went on. I am sure it's been a week or less.


What the heck??

I was thinking of sending Drac a TM tonight just after midnight to wish him Happy Birthday and offer him a 'gift'.

I'm all for SEDUCTION...

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Just got off the phone w/Drac and the kids

He said they just got in the car after the movie. DD let it out that the Ho's son gave her something,,,

So when Drac got on the phone he started talking about DD still running a fever. I asked about her having gotten some Tylenol and he said she did

I then asked what 'A' gave her. He said a stuffed animal.

I said, 'I thought we weren't SEEING her any more '

Drac 'Well they met us out there'

I laughed and told him I'd call the sitters in the am to talk to the kids and said good night. I managed to keep my voice normal.

I then hung up the phone and threw it across the room!

I so HATE him right now!!

(((((BUGS)))))

I'm so sorry that happened to you...it's definitily time for Plan B...

Breathe...

Calm down and gather your thoughts...what's the plan?

My first plan was a hand gun!


Since I don't own one, that's out the window. So, I went and got a drink and headed to the bath tub!

There's no way to go to an effective Plan B on Thurs and then have to see him in court on Mon. It just doesn,t make any sense

So, the plan is to AVOID him til then. Plan B after court or on Tues.

I am going to take the kid's bday presents to the sitter's in the am so they can give to him tomorrow ON his actual bday. Will leave mine there as well

I think I will shock the crap out of him bt STILL sending that TM after midnight so I can be the FIRST one to wish him Happy Birthday

Then, tomorrow night I will be on the cell phone when he is talking to the kids so I do not have to talk to him

Will send him email letting him know I will be out of town for the weekend and give him the contact info.

That just leaves the times I call over the weekend to talk to the kids, which I can keep to straight business about the kids.

UGH! And HE is the one who accuses ME of making decisions about the kids like I am laying down the law!

Atleast I am not a SNEAK and a LIAR. A total POS no good dirty rotten sob!

Let me think of some more nasty names and I'll be back!

It's just not our night Bugs.

((((Bugs))))

Oh Eph! Now I am almost afraid to ck your thread!

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Let me go ck it out.

Dang--this just creeps me out!!! Are you sure it's him? Why do you think he wants to spy on you?

(((Bugs)))

I'm so sorry. Just want to let you know you're in my prayers for strength.
I know how this hurts.

Let me think of some names to also call Drac..... jerk is probably the cleanest.

(((Hugs)))

Still

Bugs here's a ((((HUG)))).

Whenever he says things like this to you remember to go straight to the Bible Romans Chapter 7 verses 15-25.

He knows not what hs is saying right now, because it is not him but the evil within him that is controlling him.

I know how hard it is. It hurts just like glass going right through us, but after those verses you will find that God will give you peace and comfort.

Remember to turn to him before us, that's what God wants you to do.

We are here to help you remember HIS word, and to give you comfort and moral support, but it is GOD who will carry you through the fire !!!

I will pray for you, and remember to get in his word more often. If you are angy enough to throw the phone, then you need to grow closer with the Lord. I know this from experience and what GOD has shown me. I don't have my prayer journal here or I could give you the scripture for this.

Just pray and ask for the Lord's peace and comfort.

I'll be praying for you...Would like to call drac names as well, but that wouldn't be nice, so I'll just pray harder that the lord can change Drac's heart.

Thanks all,,sorry not much time to respond to your posts right now.

Quick update - I sent Drac the tm last night, but he did not read it until 6:30 am today. I also took his birthday presents to the sitter's house and dropped them off before he got there. Told her why I was doing it and she understood. She even asked, "Does he do this kind of thing for you, making sure the kids have presents for you? I told her usually not. She just shook her head.

So,,,,, as if life couldn't get more fun, my sister just called me. My Dad has had a stroke. Thank God it looks to be a mild one. I am getting what I have to finished at work and then making the 1 1/2 hour drive to go see him in the hospital. Not bothering to call Drac about it. I don't need the hurt & disappointment that I got when my nephew died.

I know you all will send your thought and prayers to my Dad,,,, so thanks in advance! I'll drop in for an update when I can.

Oh, BUGS... I hope that your dad is okay...your right I will be praying for him...

I think that you are right to protect yourself right now...keep taking care of yourself...

I am also concerned about that flood light too!

I'll also be praying that you can kee your strenght up right now, you sure do have a lot on your plate!

((((BUGS))))

(((BUGS)))

Hope everything turns out ok with your Dad.
Mild strokes are a warning sign...now he gets to address his health issues proactively. We'll all be thinking positive thoughts for you and your family.

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Drac is not behaving any different than any other full-fledged WS. Obviously he is back in full affair mode.

Do you not have an agreement that DD is not to be exposed to his DATES? OMG. I can't believe the nerve of him. And having the HO's child give your child a gift? I'd rip it to shreds. How thinly veiled of a bribe is that?

I know you're worried about DD -- but I would make sure she knows HO is the enemy of her family.

Do you have any formal custody agreement? If not, I would suspend all visits until he agrees to stop bringing DD on his DATES. YUCK. YUCK. YUCK.

What is the plan for custody? Are you to be the physical and legal guardian of DD? Is Drac legal only, with visitation/parenting time scheduled?

Hugs for Bugs.....

(((Bugs)))

Bugs:

Sorry about your Dad.

I hope he recovers fully and completely.


However,

Call or TM Drac and let him know.

Just like with nephew, he won't do anything about it, but then he can't EVER accuse you of not letting him know...

Because THAT'S what would happen.

And if he is somewhat troubled by it tonight when he with HO, that's a good thing.

Mail the "fuzzy animal" back to HO. With a note: "Until the D is final, please refrain from buying gifts for my children."

OK?

(((BUGS))) (((BUGSDAD)))

LG

Thx everyone!

Dad is doing ok. Waiting on tests.

No formal custody yet, but we have agreed to a plan. Joint legal with me having primary physical.

DD KNOWS tha Ho is BAD for the family. First thing she told me on the phone last night was she wished I was there. I KNOW Drac heard that.

LG - as much as I don't want to tell him anything, I guess you are right.

But,,,after I do let him know, do I answer if he calls?

I like the idea of mailing back the gift!

Thanks so much everybody. Need all the strength I can get right now!

Haven't cried yet. Am holding it in til I am alone.

Bugs:

About this:

"But,,,after I do let him know, do I answer if he calls?"

Sure, why not?

If he stays on the phone, let him know how much your Dad cares about him.....

Play up that family connection....

And if he doesn't call, well, what did you expect....

Remember, it's Drac, not H.

Do not be afraid to cry with your mother.....

LG