I like this idea but would recommend that you instead say:

"Refrain from buying gifts for our child"....no PLEASE..no mention of DIVORCE..this is the not just YOUR CHILD...or "I will not allow Bugs to accept gifts from you"...

LG,

Why not answer his call?

Afraid of LB'ing or even giving him a dose of Plan FU!

I will take the call if I feel up to it at the time. Best I can do for now.

Like the note suggestion Mimi

Funny, Drac sent me what appears to be a funny email. Haven't opened it yet.

HE hasn't sent me anything in months.

Here's the email he sent me -



This coming week is National Mental Health Care Week. You can do your part by remembering to contact at least one unstable person to show you care.

Well, my job is done... Your turn!

Don't even respond to that nonsense. It sounds like that's his "ha-ha" way of disguising an insult.

It had a funny picture of a clown in a straight jacket and the words "Some morning it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps'

I replied,

"WOW! Thanks so much! Just what I needed today!:)

Right back at ya sweetie!:

By the way, I am leaving for the day. My dad has had a stroke and is in the hospital. I am outta here'

Wow, I'm guessing he's feeling about an inch tall right now.

Bugs:

I like how Mimi phrased the note for the return of the Fuzzy Animal.

As for the email...

Time for plan B.

Really.

Nice of him to forward that. And there is only one reason why. AND I do not like it. "Unstable person" And BUGS jumps into his brain.

[censored].

ANd if he does call, after you have TM'ed him about your dad, answer it or not. Keep it short if you do. You can always be someplace that you were not able to answer in the hospital when he calls....

LG

Unless he took it as you were okay with his joke. Were you okay with it? If so, just ignore what I said. K? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You and your family are in my prayers today.

PM:

"Wow, I'm guessing he's feeling about an inch tall right now."

No. He will come back that it's BUGS fault.

And if BUGS needs Drac to do something with the kids tonight because she is at the Hospital?

Drac at Full Fang.

Tuesday can't get here soon enough Bugs.

LG

lets give him the benefit of the doubt -- he doesn't know what you know, he doesn't know about your dad.

On a regular ol day, how would you have reacted to that e-mail -- funny? or not funny?

Your reply shot him down good.

As far as the gift goes: I wouldn't return it. That just helps Drac and Ho band together against you. It keeps you in the triangle. Ho gets to play the victim "poor innocent me just trying to be nice...and ****** Bugs overreacting" And Drac is sure to side with Ho.

Just destroy it. Let Drac know its gone and further "gifts" from the homewrecker will be treated the same. "I will not allow any item tainted by the woman who destroyed my family in my home"

I got that email, too! From my mother! I laughed, then passed it on to all my co-workers, and some others I consider on my "joke" list. Thought of WH, just because I always do....he's always on my list. But in Plan B, I refrain from sharing with him.

Thinking of you, Bugs....

Fox

If Drac had been sending me funny emails all along AND if he had not made the comment over the weekend about me seeming to change from one moment to the next, I would hvae laughed and moved on.

I thought me reply was just what was needed. It could be taken as a joke or a slam,,,just like his.

The fact that I added the info about Dad to the email was just using circumstances to let him know. Maybe he'll feel badly, probably not.

Who the he77 knows and frankly right now I do not care.

I am with LG that Tues can not get here fast enough!

I talked to a friend earlier who confirmed what I 'knew' Drac's car has been at the Ho's house numerous times recently.

I am simply tired of being treated with such total Disrespect. Tired of being treated as if I am stupid or as if I am 'mentally unstable' because I want to save my M and I still love my H (not Drac, H)

Upset and angry. Hurt and sick inside.

Lexx:

You stated:

"lets give him the benefit of the doubt -- he doesn't know what you know, he doesn't know about your dad."

That's true.

But BUGS said that he hadn't sent HER anything for MONTHS.

It's Drac's Birthday today.
He is deep in the Affair again.
He thinks he has her where he wants her, starting to accept that HO is around, and will be.

Yes, it's one of the those things that "go around" the internet.

But I still do not like this equation: "Unstable person" And BUGS jumps into his brain.

He may get two of three things a day that are jokes, or one a week, I don't know.

But he hasn't forwarded any of the others, has he?

So, my objection has nothing to do with what happened to Bugs father last night, and the joke came at a bad time. No, the joke was driven by something else. And that was DRAC.

LG

Bugs....just remember: he is back in full fledged WH mode.
He is TRYING to make you lose it.
Your control and Plan A perfection increases his guilt.
He's taking shots to make you lose control and blow.
Hence the comments at every interaction regarding divorce or separation. ETC.

Who do we want COOL? BUGS!
Who do we want LB'ing? HO!

I think your response was good. He won't know how to take it!

LG -- you're right.

I think he's just increasing his "shots."
Trying to piss Bugs off. Trying to get her off her game.
Trying to shift blame. Trying to get back his justifications.

Cool Bugs here.

Hanging on til Tues darkness falls.

Sitting in construction traffic. Crying a bit but gettin stronger.

Thanks everyone. Your anger,support, great advise on my behalf really hels!

So anything further on your house search?

Is the very first house you wanted still for sale?

Yes it is still on the market. I am hoping that I will have enough settled Mon to know if I can increase my offer or not

If not, there are a couple others that I am considering.

Thanks for helping me try to think about something positive vs the dirtbag Drac

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I wasn't talking about the one you put an offer on.

Didn't you go look at one a month or two ago, that you LOVED?

And it will be so great for you to be closer to your family!

The first one from a while back is now my sedond choice and is also still available.

Both are in the same area.

I can't wait to be closer to 'home'!