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Do I need to tell WH I am filing for divorce/annulment?
#1818530 01/30/07 12:48 PM
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Do I need to tell WH that I am filing a divorce/annulment? WH is now living with OW & 2 OC. There is no chance of R anymore. We have been separated for 5 years. WH A is going on for 8 years. Please advise. Thank you...
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Why hasn't your husband filed for divorce?

The decision to divorce is something only you can make, but if what you say is true and no recovery is possible, what choices do you have? Remain stuck in the present predicament, or cut your losses and move ahead with your life?

If you have already decided to divorce, there is no need to notify your husband. The court will do that for you.
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Hiker45 #1818532 01/30/07 01:46 PM
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Why bother with a notification? From what you say, the divorce petition is only a formality recognizing something that has been a fact for some time now so notification would seem to be superfluous.

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What do you hope to gain from telling him?

Have you discussed with your attorney what you could lose if he finds out before you file and takes action?

He'll be notified when the papers are filed - how would telling him ahead of time gain anything for you?

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Thanks for your replies. Okay- there is no need to notify him in advance. I agree I have nothing to gain anyway.

Hiker- My WH doesn't want to file for divorce because he is still hoping for reconciliation before. I only knew about the A a year ago.

Thank you-
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