I would like to have your reactions to an example cut from another web board (I am translating):

Subject: Started an affair! Help
Start of thread:
“Hi, I have been in a relationship for 8 years. We have kids, dog, car and house. We never argue and both of us look good. But are life together is so boring! I don’t feel like doing anything together with him. Now to my dilemma. I have started an affair with a colleague. Extremely sweet very cosy and we have so much fun. I know that it is a lot about the fact that we have not washed clothes and changed diapers together for 8 years. I know I should not do it but I am crazy in love. It feels like I just want to think about how I can be happy and not care about anything (but I will not do that to our kids). It’s heaven to go to work and feels like I am unfaithful when I am at home (towards my colleague). What should I do? Get a divorce or stay?”

A few replies like this:
“Nobody feels good staying in a relationship where you are not happy so you have to decide if this is just since “you have not cleaned poo together” “everyday life will come with the new man” etc. Do you love your husband or is it dead?”
“Can’t you talk to your husband? You can go to marriage counselling together.”

Reply from thread starter:
”I love him because he is wonderful father. He is a person I know will always be there when I need him, but I don’t want him to touch me, I get disgusted when he says he is horny. I know that others would say that I am nuts if I don’t realize that he is more good looking than my colleague, we live together and have children. I know all that but I can’t stop thinking of my colleague. I just want to be close to him, I get all warm when he sends a TM, I get all stirred up when I see him at work. He says all the right and good things to me at the same time as he gets nervous and shy in front of me.”

Another reply:
“That’s tough, I was married and had a good life (at least that was what everyone else thought) and had two children.
But I met a man at work who I fell in love with, for the first time in my life I knew what it was like to be in love, to love someone in a grown up way.
I was thinking for two months and finally realized that I did not love my husband the way I should.
So I told him I wanted a divorce started seeing the man at work.
Today three years later we are married and I am expecting our second child, a step which I have never regretted.
Good luck!”