In addition to threads, I'm also game for anyone's advice as well as recommended books.
Well, I never even got a Plan A going post D-Day. I exposed to the OM's wife a month ago. In her fog my WW tells me how vindictive I am. Payback is filing for divorce now plus badmouthing me to anyone she talks to. If I knew then what I know now I would still expose, so I have no regrets along those lines. I didn't see a "FAQ for the newly served-with-divorce-papers BS who still loves his WW." I really don't want to ad lib now as the clock is ticking.
I'll do whatever it takes to maximize my chances down the road should my WW ever come out of the fog. I don't want to do anything that would kill all hope. I'm still working on me, but whatever changes I make have to still be visible long run. She doesn't believe I've changed or am even capable of making positive changes. I know some of that is just her babble as she had commented before D-Day about the changes I had made in the previous month. I think my real poorly articulated question is "Now what?"
Contact continues between my WW and the OM, but to a MUCH lesser degree. The OM's wife must be doing a good job, but my WW and the OM still talk. I know they had sex at least once in the last 2-3 weeks. My days of having insider knowledge (via snooping) are pretty much over now unfortunately. I will contact the OM's wife again this week and let her know a few things. The OM has plenty of free time, so there is no way his wife can be sure of NC. To my knowledge the OM's wife has exposed to no one. I can only pray that reading the books I sent her 2 weeks ago will cause her to rethink exposure as well as help her in other ways.
It's late, and I'm tired. I just can't write any more right now. If you've got questions that need to be answered before you can offer any advice, fire away.
Thanks.
BetrayedToo
