I have been married for 2 1/2 years now. We have a beautiful 15 month old daughter. Problem is, my husband doesn't want to work. He has had 11 jobs in the past couple of years. He lies about work and goes out gambling. He has been borrowing money from his mother. He tells her that we need it for bills. He would put half of it in the bank and keep the other half and go gambling. I thought all along the money was from paychecks. This last time I told him that it was it. I was gone. He said that he would get a job and keep it. He promised to support our family and stop the lies all the time. Well, it's been two weeks. He worked for a couple of days and then quit to take another job which supposedly he was to start by today. Guess what, he says the lady hasn't called him and he doesn't want to aggravate her by calling her. I can't take it anymore. Please help! I want to save my marriage but am tired of supporting us. We are about to lose everything we have because of his not keeping a job. He straightens up for a couple of days and then back to being a jerk.

My Father was the EXACT same way, except with him, it was drugs instead of gambling. Trust me as a daughter of a man who was like this, YOU need to do whats best for your daughter. If my mother hadn't left my dad, then when he lost EVERYTHING,(and i mean EVERYTHING) i would have been right there in the middle. I know my father loves me but he's not responsible enough to be a father. And i know that people CAN change, it's just rare to find someone with enough will power to stay changed. I hope something happens and he does change for good, but you need to realize how rare it is that that actually happens. My dad is in jail for failure to pay child support on my little sister. I only get to see him twice a week, for 30 minutes at a time. For your daughter's sake i hope your husband grows up a little and learns some responsibility.

He needs help. Regardless if hes working or not he needs to take care of his addiction. He needs to stop. Have his mom stop giving him the money and if you really need it have her give you the money instead. Cut him off from all money coming in. Then he wont have a way to gamble. As for the not getting a job if you are up to it.Spend a day with nothing but job hunting filling apps in doing interviews and take him to them.Then Have him get a job and like a child take him to and from work with surprised drive bys to make sure hes working. When he establishes that job like a month two months heck three months then let him start having some of the money. Not all just a bit of it AFTER bills are paid. YOU need to look out for you and yoru daughter.