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My husband has on occassion requested that I be ok with him returning to 'normal' at this point.
His old 'normal' being free to stop off in any old pub for a drink with his friends or family.
Our protection was an agreed veto on all pubs in our area unless we were together, as former mistress frequents them all.
My husband says he is truly ready to tell her to f'off at this stage, he is not interested in anything to do with her, it is merely his desire to socialise like 'normal' again.
The lying and cheating ended 3 years ago.
I can sense his feelings of resentment rising.
How am I approaching this topic all wrong???
I understand as an adult he is free to choose.
The resulting consequences of his choice are pre-known.
Many thanks
Mary
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POJA policy of joint agreement both must feel good about the arrangement LINK
Last edited by Pepperband; 02/06/07 02:55 PM.
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Does he or would he mind if you stopped off at the local pub or sports bar with girlfriends in the evening after work?
I bet he will and would....See the double standard.
I don't know the answer to your question. Has he been completely transparent in the last three years. No other events if you will?
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If you both agree on it thats fine...
Maybe if he wont mind you coming out wtih him then maybe you join him?
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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