Hi all. After the affair, I am working to forgive and rebuild. Affection is high on both our needs lists, but for another month he will continue to live out of town on business. Looking for ideas to send affection. I have sent e-greeting cards and can't cell phone text because his boss throws a fit. Look forward to your ideas and can't wait to use the bathtub crayons when he is home next weekend.

Allie (aka I am I said, but no one listened, not even the chair! recovery takes time <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Welcome, Allie!

I love your screenname...

Are you the BS and he is the FWS? How long was the A and how long since NC?

(If the acronyms drive you nuts, check out the acronyms list in "Just Found Out" forum...they help.

You only specifically want help with creative affection at a distance? Consider mail...snail mail. Send jokes, memories of when you first fell in love...the Recreational Companionship (RC) inventory (where you indicate what you like and then you send it to him for his likes and dislikes)...what about sending a pillow he likes from home?

Do you have children? Sending artwork, notes and stories about what they did that day, the funny things they said...all that is home described?

If you want long-term support from MB, please consider posting on Infidelity General Questions II (GQII) forum...even with this post...it gets the most traffic and many people can contribute...lots of creative, loving and rebuilding humans here.

Welcome!!

LA

Thanks for the reply...aaahh... the acronyms, I am LOL - considered myself well-versed in chatrooms etc. but had to look it up - thanks for the point of reference! I am the BS (LOL) and he is the FWS or FWH. I couldn't find what "NC" meant, but the "A" or affair was a year ago and lasted somewhere between 1-4 months before his job took him 1000 miles away from her, but she continued to communicate and not sure how recent his communication has been. We, his son and I were in another state. He took steps last night to write a letter saying he regretted hurting us and would never have contact with her again. Well, he took steps, then asked me to write it and I said he had to do it.

Anyway, I am looking mainly for ideas to rebuild while we finish the last month of separation (distance) because of job. I sent the emotional needs survey to him last night, we discussed and he is supposed to send his to me (email). I regret not sending more cards, jokes, pics of our son etc. - a big part of his loneliness, disconnect and affair. Good advice. I like your idea about a list of memories - will do that now - a top 10 thing. Thanks for the idea!