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I can't find my old post so I am just starting a new thread. I'm the one that had the post "Question about Exposure."
I got the SAA book from Amazon in record time and have read that and am almost through HNHN.
Talked to my Pastor last week while WH was out of town. WH is over there at the church now. For those of you that pray please do so for us. Don't know how WH will take it or how he will react when he gets home.
Thank you,
S & H
BW 47
WH 39
Married 17 years
2d ages 11 & 6
1st A D-day 8/02
2nd A D-day 12/06
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T&H,
It is good to know your support group is helping. Doesn't take all the pain away but more than you may realize.
As for how he will react. Expect him t/b totally upset and grouchy. Then when he is less offensive than that you w/b ok and know how to handle it.
Some WS' think we are all stupid and like to play mind games with the BS and their supporters. Well the old saying is that you can't fool all of the people all of the time.
So be patient. Know you did and are doing the right thing. When the WS acts stupid, let him be that way ALL by himself.
The info from those books will come in handy. If you are up to it, get Love must be Tough by Dobson. Gets you ready for plan B (in case you need it).
Pray for a clear mind, calm heart and lots of patience.
L.
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Praying, praying, praying for you.
God bless you.
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Well, last night came and has gone. WH came home and for the most part acted like nothing had happened. Of course the girls were still up, but after they went to bed he made phone calls and worked on the computer and then went to bed.
Only clues I had were a couple of snappy answers, but I made sure to overlook and not LB. I didn't know how to start the conversation so I will wait until church tonight and find time to speak to the Pastor and ask how it went.
T & H
BW 47
WH 39
Married 17 years
2d ages 11 & 6
1st A D-day 8/02
2nd A D-day 12/06
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They will do this at first because they don't want you to know "you bothered them" with your actions. IT DID, I promise and you will see it at some point in the form of anger, entitlement, resentment, blame, guilt transfer, projecting, et al....
Don't let him drag you into a fight,
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