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Hello all,
Long time visitor, first time posting. Maybe should have jumped in sooner.
My story is long as I am sure all here are. Here is the just of my situation right now.
I am a 40 yr old male, married 23 ½ yrs.
2 Daughters both married 1 divorced.
2 Sons 1- 15 yrs old living with wife, 1-17 yr old living with me
. Marriage has had trouble since the beginning, tons of contributing factors, we are recently separated 1-11-07.
Children each dealing with different issues as a result of all the garbage they have been exposed to the past.
I have not seen wife since she moved out, we can’t speak without fighting. After she moved out she said things may still be able to be worked out with a lot more individual counseling and then coming back together for a lot more marriage counseling. Her actions say she can not get away fast enough.
At first I was really wanting things to reconcile if possible but have been back and forth on the issue a lot (a lot of pain involved in ending 23 yrs of marriage). Recently while praying I asked God to show me He was listing to me and to give me an answer to all of the questions swimming around in my head and to just stop all of the confusion. As soon as I finished praying I opened my daily devotion and read what seems nothing less than God speaking directly to me saying to ”stay in the tough marriage” but since that time things continue to get worse with wife. She said today to “proceed with the papers”. I want to honor what I feel God is telling me but at this point things seem hopeless and I am right back into all the confusion again. Anybody out there got some good insight?
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Welcome. Is there any infidelity happening?
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She had affair in 01, swears nothing going on now.
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So what are the problems?
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Are you asking about marital issues that led to this separation?
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Yes. The MB plan is that if you meet each other's emotional needs, and don't lovebust, ie: angry outbursts, and disrespectful judgements, then you can have a good marriage.
I'm just asking what went wrong in the marriage in your mind.
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