I found out that my W was having an EA, with another Marine, while I was deployed, and still after I reurned, up until I exposed everything to her, last week. They happened to see my PI watching them, but when WW asked me about it, I let her believe that it was NCIS. So now they've stopped all communication with each other out of fear that he is about to get slammed.

Here in NC there are a couple of old laws (i.e. Alienation of Affection and Criminal Conversation) that allow me seek monitary damages from him for pursuing her, and having sex with her.

I have a mountain of evidence of the A, and can prove "opportunity and inclination." They only thing that I can't really prove is that they actually had sex.

Should I confont him and tell him that I won't go to his command and NCIS if he gives me a written statement saying that he did in fact have sex with her? And then, keep my word about not going to his command, but use it against him in a civil suit?

hey my w cheated on me with a marine...what can i do???

I wouldn't hold back on this. Find the CO and get in their face about this.

Adultery may constitute an offense under article 134 of the Uniform Code of Military Justice. Article 125 could be involved, too.

It may not be a criminal offense, but counseling from your CO on this could be embarrassing at the least and very likely career impacting.

Don't wait.