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OK, So it has been awhile since I have posted. I found out something today that makes me feel real uncomfortable. I would appreciate hearing from folks here if this is just silly or if I am justified in how I feel.
As far as I know, there has been zero contact from OW in more than 3-years. So today I find out that OW is working as an investigator. Keep in mind that OW at the very least, used to be pretty unstable. Now she has all sorts of resources available to her that the average citizen doesn't have access to and is probably snooping into our life.
This makes my skin crawl....any thoughts....am I being overly sensitive?
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I don't know what kind of investigator she may have become...there may be an association, licensing board or insurance company you could write to voicing your concerns and delivering facts succinctly.
Then you can lay it down. I don't know if she's changed or not...people can and do. Some don't. You'll know when you know...
Remember...where your thoughts dwell, there is your treasure.
(((WHO)))
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Loving: What do you think about Lil Sis' letter to her WH? Was I offbase? Was I a good LA STUDENT? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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The worst part about A's is the knowlege that the OP's (in some cases) are still out there runing peoples lives.
WhoMe, If it has been NC for 3 years and your H is/has worked hard to rebuild trust, then I don't think that there is any worry for your relationship.
However If the OW in your case is anything the the OM in mine there is a chance she is useing her extra privilages to seduce someone else. If that is the case i don't know what to do, but it would surly be nice if there was a law anganst scumbag preditors. Some of them are nothing more then pacient rapists.
Bs (27) - me
FWW (28)
Married: 06/02
D-Day: 11/05
PA: 7/04-10/04 (MOM)
EA: 9/04-D-day (with a different OM)
Daughter born 3-13-07.
Recovery Status: W acting like my W again; I missed her so much.
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Who me, this is a slight threadjack, but I've been meaning to ask you a quesion for some time now...Didn't I read you say one time that there was a med on the market that increases the levels of dopmanine in the body? If that was indeed you, would you mind giving me the name of the drug? I suffer from depression much of that time...I am currently on meds and they don't seem to be working all that well, and I just wonder about this drug beause I would REALLY love to feel complete again...Thanks so much for the advice, if it was you...I would greatily value your input on this whenever you have the time...
Warmest Regads,
Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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WM, OW an investigator? Of what?!?!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Sorry. I have been out of town visiting my Daughter and Grandson in Germany. It wasn't me re the antidepressant. OW works for what appears to be a reputable company, Gryphon Investigations. Her Mother is an attorney, so I suspect that this is something she provided an assist on. I do know that the company offers background checks and Due Diligence type work for court cases, so I know that they provide their investigators numerous resources regarding access to sensitive information.
In this day of identity theft etc, I am quite apprehensive that OW will try some sort of stunt. Even if there is no contact, she was/is a very angry woman who tried just about everything to get FWH to leave me for her.
The whole thing really is unnerving.
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That makes it all the more challenging. Imagine the OW getting busted with her own stuff. LOL!!! So she is an investigator....question her work ethics. Her after work ethics suck....when not if but when will it spill into her work, if it hasn't already and does the company really want a lose wire on the loose? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> L.
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