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Just saying Hi to many of you that have not heard from me for a while. It's been a long road that many of you have helped pave.
Don't pick the scabs or you will never heal Marilyn Manson
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Hey WIWH,
I remember you.I used to post under a different name.What's been going on since 2005?
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Hi back. I hope life's been good.
Divorced. 2 Girls Remarried 10/11/08 Widowed 11/5/08 Remarrying 12/17/15
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Hello, What's your update? We need stories here. (BTW, I have none of my own).
It was a marriage that never really started. H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03. My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9 *Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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I don't realy have an update.
AB, If I may call you that, (I'm lazy) Has it realy been that long since I've been here. I wish I knew who you used to post as but I'm drawing a blank. Searched back but cant find your early posts with this ID Actually I think I have just been here reading on and off for a while but never logged in.
GG, From what I have read, you sound like a different person in a different life with the same great beliefs and morals. I hope things are still going well for you.
Newly, (sorry I don't have a good abreviation for that) I am having a hard time remembering any good stories posted here from you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />. But then most of them were probably before my time.
OK I can give you an update on me. Probably not the best board for it and not to interesting.
I'm not sure of the last time I posted so forgive me if you've heard it all before.
I live alone most of the time. Girls have their own place here as much as I can have them here. Still not enough though. Almost got mixxed up with MW a while back but, under good advice, backed off once I found out before I became OM. Ran into similar situation that I am backing out of now with W who lives with BF. Still not a good situation for me.
X and her new H have a healthy bouncing baby boy. So unfortunately they are getting a little crowded so they need to sell the house I gave them to move to someplace bigger.They are doing pretty good since He got to sell his house and move into mine. But I'm sure she will burn through anything they got and run him into the ground as she did me.
Sorry. Starting to get carried away.
In general, I am OK. but I did have to take the pool table out of my livingroom to make room for the big screen TV <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
OH Yeah! One more thing! I truly believe that my experience here and the changes I have made in my self from this board and from HNHN is the reason that I have a problem atracting attached women. Not my goal but it does show how much so many people are missing in their relationships
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Don't pick the scabs or you will never heal Marilyn Manson
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You are a nice guy and women are attracted to that (married women, but still women). We all seem to repeat our patterns, unless we strive to change them. For some of us, it is still a learning process. I dated someone for close to a year, and he was as much of a non-communicator as my X. I just didn't need as much from him so it didn't bother me. I haven't bothered to date in a while. Home renovations took alot out of me, and I'm not suited for it. My X has been dating someone for at least 3 years, and still doesn't seem happy. He's as nasty to me as ever, and continues to use the kids as pawns. I wish he'd just let go of whatever is bothering him. And he continues to lie to the kids, and to me. He told the kids to tell me his GF was 36 (I don't know why he thought I should know), but on an internet search I found out she's 55, quite a bit older - but apparently not wiser because she's dating him. I tell my girls that love just grows and grows and they can love her, and have her love them too.
It was a marriage that never really started. H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03. My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9 *Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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May I suggest that you probably consider married women "safe" and therefore are more open and warm toward them. After all, they're married so they won't think you're coming on to them.
My bet is you don't even recognize them as women women until they start to get gushy over you.
The best thing you can do is stop listening to them. This will convince them that all men are like their husbands and boyfriends and they may leave you alone.
And no, I don't believe all men are alike.
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AB, If I may call you that, (I'm lazy) Has it realy been that long since I've been here. I wish I knew who you used to post as but I'm drawing a blank. Searched back but cant find your early posts with this ID Actually I think I have just been here reading on and off for a while but never logged in. Sure you can call me AB.Whatever's easier.Anyway you won't find me from before.I left on a sour note and was dismayed by many things/people at the time so I've given up my old name but it's still near my heart as I went through quite a lot with MB over the past years using that name. Anyway,glad to hear you're ok.I like to hear about happy stories whether a marriage is saved or not. I truly believe that my experience here and the changes I have made in my self from this board and from HNHN is the reason that I have a problem atracting attached women. Not my goal but it does show how much so many people are missing in their relationships I believe it.We are so far ahead of the game here re: relationships that I think it will be easy for us to find what we need,avoid what we don't and stear clear of disasters waiting to happen.I have learned a lot here too and feel ready to start dating again soon. Hope you like that TV!
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