My marriage has been having problems for a while. Have been married 16 years. We have been under a lot of stress for a while now and I don't know if it contributes to the problem or not. During an arguement 2 weeks ago I told her to leave out of anger. And she took me up on it. It was a mistake on my part. I finally talked her into coming back. She did not want to. She wanted divorce but came back out of guilt and because she was uncomfortable where she was staying. But she is mad. She don't know what she wants. We both are verbally abusive. Maybe me more then her. We have an appointment for counseling tomorow. And I don't think she really want to go but is. It is not a divorce yet but very close. Any advise would help. I know I pushed her too far.

anger issues, imho, need to be nipped in the bud immediately. my ex has them, and mostly, i think he is angry just at life in general, his upbringing, everything. eventually, i got the brunt of that. any little thing i did wrong, i got he brunt of that anger. verbal abuse turns physical eventually i think. my ex finally lost it completely in jan of 06, kicked in my door, and shoved me against the wall, all over a small disagreement.

get help now and learn healthy ways to express anger. my ex, in my opinion, is still a time bomb waiting to go off.
in fact, he has been court ordered for a mental health eval. that is how bad he is.

mlhb

I have known my wife since high school and have been married for 4 years and together for 7 years. I am in the military and just moved to Germany a few weeks ago but my wife and son did not come with me. She says that she was unhappy, we always fought, and accuses me of having an affair. Rumors were going around that I was cheating on her and she heard about it. My wife suffers from deperation and took medication for a while but gave up because it was making her sick. I will do anything to get my family back. She said she still loves me. The only communication we have right now is myspace. I have left her alone the past 2 months to see if she will think any different but she has not told me that she wanted to come back. Please let me know if you get this and I will explain more. I know we all go through this. My situation is tough considering I am 6,000 miles away. I would appreciate your help!

I went to counselor today. I will be getting help on the anger. If your ex got help would you take him back?