Aloha RH,

Howa bean!?!??! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

Yes, how about an update.

The girls are growing up so fast, and we haven't heard much lately.

I think you should update us too, Orchid.


I'll even take my turn. We have 6 grand kids now. I'm starting to feel old. However, my W says I still act like a 16 year old, so I won't worry about it yet.

SS

Hi Orchid & SS,

I am at Fresno for 2D's GoldSkate competition. They are both in HS now and one will be off to the college this year. I am happily M to Lady Elina. Couldn't dream life could be this fullfilling !. I am still doing my internship at dual diagnosis clinic in the city for my license. I am working full time contractor at software vendor, making a bit more than at the peak of my earning in my past M. I get everything better prior to Dv. I only could say I am blessed.

How are you ? how is the 'lil one ?.

-rh-

Aloha RH & SS,

Glad 2 hear from u guys.

Wow RH, College? The girls are sure growing up fast. That means your daughter is graduating this year? Hm.... we need to talk ok? Gotz an idea. E-mail me ok?

Give my aloha to the girls and Lady Elena. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Let us know how the competition goes. Glad to hear work is doing well.

Please keep in touch. I heard from Indy....he moved to DC and may be closer to WAT. Might try to hook them up. He has sure matured and moved forward quite well. The WS in his life seems to be making a comeback but not necessarily a good one. She's been yanking his chain so I have been giving him support from way out here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Since SS asked, I am fine. Son is in 7th grade and now wants to drive. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Son still wants to be a robotics inventor or do genetic research, makes lots of $$ so I can quit working. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Gotta love him....he still loves his mom!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> He found a shirt last year at Sears that says: Parent's for sale, Buy one, get the other at 1/2 off!
He told me that I'm the one he would ask a high price for but his dad he would sell at a discount. LOL!!! So one day when he wore the shirt, I had 3 boys ask him if they could buy his mom.... of course I told those boys that I was the auntie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Hawaii seems to be more a family oriented type of community than where we were in CA. The Ohana spirit shows up here a lot. Even kids joke around and are polite to older ones more. Not always but more often than other places. That's nice to see.

H is working almost 7 days a week and keeping very busy. Of course I am still a workaholic but may soon have to slow down a bit..... currently undergoing some testing with the 'ol ticker. Nothing emergency yet, just checking. I want out of my current job so I am exploring other possibilities.

H's grandfather just passed and his dad had a stroke....same timeframe. My parents are well.... for now let's just say.... they prefer to NOT deal with me or even see their only grandchild. No one can really understand their POV but that is how they are. Parents moved to a gated community and no one (not even me) has access to their home. My dad was shocked and a bit upset one time when I was able to get in through the complex security gate to leave them their 50th anniversary present. Dad claimed the complex's security gate needed to be more secure. LOL!!! Yea...like I a sooo dangerous. My mom is more understanding but she relies on my dad for a lot now so she doesn't contest his attitude. ;(

So for now, I am available when they need me but other than that, I am kept busy by my other aunties who have no children living here and help them out when they need. My mom just called today and mentioned she may need surgery on her dialysis tube but won't know for sure until Tuesday. So I will wait to see comes from that one. I'm glad she called to let me know. My aunties and friends here are supportive so we are doing ok.

Son went to CA for winterbreak. Things have changed a lot there in 2 1/2 years. Son is also changing. He was 9 when we moved here and now he is 12. He grew over 5" this past summer and now I am the shortest in the family. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I tell him he will always be my baby. Poor thing... I try not to embarrass him in public. But I am his mom and sometimes....that's my job. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> He's a good boy and lovingly understands. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The drama currently resides with H's family....as usual. Drama queen YSIL-WS had more than 1 A and her H finally kicked her out of the house. This is the one who spent thousands of $$ on plastic surgery. She tried to get other relatives to cover her expenses and stick up for her but alas, I had already filled their brains with MB stuff and even her mom told her NO.... you can't move in with me and I won't watch all the time so she can go play. Right now her family feel better that she is NOT at home. Even her 4 little ones have calmed down. Yes, they miss their real mom but she has never been a good mom so they are now finding out with others carrying for them (i.e their dad, his mom/sisters, 2 SILs on H's side, etc.) that they can live like children instead of in fear of Barbie doll's attitude. Her 11 year old was turning into a mini version of YSIL and that was scary. The crazy thing is YSIL said she spent a lot of her H's hard earned $$ (i.e. plastic surgery, excessive clothes spending, constant remodeling to the home - he is in construction, etc....) because she wanted to get 'back at her H'?!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Imagine that....get back at her H because he is a hard working loving H and dad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> She is very unappreciative and even filed false child abuse charges against him. The judge saw right through her antics and eventually her H regained custody of the children. They do spend timie with their mom (YSIL-WS) but not more than 50% for now. It is sad because their age range is from 3-11. They are sooo young.

Let's see, all the above has currently settled into now ME being the reason for YSIL's problems. Yep, seems from way out here in HI, I am able to cause YSIL-WS all kinds of problems....just by exposing and providing BS support. LOL!!! That's what YSIL-WS is telling others. Stupid WS.

Other drama is with MIL's dad passing, her brother is kicking up all kinds of dirt and drama. MIL's bi-polar tendancies are showing again and quite obvious to even total strangers. H's OSIL is having a hard time juggling her dad's stroke issues, drama queen YSIL-WS, MIL's attitude, Uncle's greedy attitude regarding his father's property...... etc. Lots of drama still. From here we send support. I feel like flying up there and slapping some sense into these older ones....alas that isn't reality so we are supporting OSIL and family from here. My periodic pep talks with family is paying off. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Other than that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> ....we are doing ok. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I've learned that while people want to know how I am doing, in essence some don't really want to know how I'm doing, just seem to ask out of obligation (relatives and some frieinds) ..... so I don't tell as much as I did here anymore. I just smile and say we are ok.... no sense sharing my heart when they really don't care or can't handle the info. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hope one day to make it out your way RH. I do miss the bay area.

SS, 6 grandkids? Wow.... so what's your trick to looking young? So what's keeping you busy besides babysitting? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I turn the big 50 this year and don't feel like it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> My son keeps reminding me. Wish he wasn't soo good in math. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Aloha,
L.

wow tons of drama. I will email you once I am back in the city.

-rh-

Where is your daughter going to college?

Aloha AM,

Howzit? Moving soon? Let us know when u r ready to take a swim out this way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Steadfast&Committed lives in the same area as us. We run into each other from time to time. It w/b fun to have others visit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

HI A.M. My D is planning to go to local junior college. She plans to tansfer later to UC system. She still wants to continue training in rollerskating. How is your D ?. Isn't about that time too for her ?.

-rh-

D is GONE! To UC-Santa Cruz. She loves it there. She can go to the computer lab in her pajamas.

Looking at craigslist, Orchid. But it's still not clear where I will be moving yet. Is your phone the same?

Aloha AM,

UC Santa Cruz? Wow....tell her she can come here at UH. We've got a great volleyball team. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yes, my # is still the same.

Aloha,
L.

Thanks for the updates - it's good to hear how you (both) are doing.

RH, I always believed you would get to this point. I didn't know how long it would take, but I had faith you would be happy. Thanks for the update - I bet there are more than just Orchid and I that wanted to know.

Orchid,
WOW ! All that going on.
How do you ever relax?

My life is boring compared to yours, but I think I'll keep it this way. I spend my time working, and........ working.
Isn't that the way it is?

When I'm off work, I spend family time, and help out at our church.

Same job, same wife, same kids. (grin) I hit 52 this year, and it's not so bad. You get used to people telling you that you are "so old now." I suppose that part of life only gets worse, but I'm happy.

Probably won't get to the Islands this year - but I'll kepe trying.

Aloha - from the mainland.

SS

AM Martin,

My daughter went to UC Santa Cruz, she graduated almost two years ago. She loved it there, played sports, enjoyed her classes. I hope your daughter has a similar experience.

JL

Hey Redhat,

Good to see you around. We missed you last December, when 2Long and I had a few brews at our usual meeting. It is good to hear that your life is doing so well. You are to be congratulated.

JL

SS ... you are not grwoing older, you are growing wiser <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> .

JL ... I was wondering and waiting for phone call from both of you. 2Long has met Lady Elina when I brought her to get together at SoCal when we were dating. Next time.

Orchid ... I missed Hawaii. If my 2 D couldn't qualify to World Championship in Australia, we might hop onto plane and go to Hawaii instead. We will see. It is strange that inbound to Hawaii plane I could see there are plenty of seat but outbound is always full. I could hop anytime to go there w/ standby ticket but I can't comeback !!!.

-rh-

(((RedHat)))

Wow! What fantatic news!!! You got married!!!

Congratulations to you and Lady Elina on your marriage!!!

I am so thrilled, so very happy and over the top for you both!!!

You so deserve such happiness and hope that you both will have many wonderful happy blissful years!!!

I have been away from the boards for long time. So reading this post has been a special "joy"!

You have been such a wonderful support to so many of us and true blue sincere friend!

How wonderful your daughters are doing so great too! Your a super dad and that has always been great inspiration to me.

I will never forget you for all your kindness, support and help when I needed it most. I appreciated your tuning into our distress. What a time that was with my high drama king punk of a exh.

I so appreciated your challenging my son on MB with the degripping of that horrible vamping cougar older woman that was after him. I just smile/recall your "touche" response as he tryed to outsmart everyone on MB at such a confusing time.

It has taken consuming dedication, devotion and upheavel battle on my part with him not to give up/or give in.

My son has done a remarkable transformational turnaround, completed all his college, well into university, living amazing exciting life, dating girls from the right age peer group. I am proud of him!

My daughter has made it to college and I am so thrilled for her!


I have treasured your words in my heart it pulled me through some rough exhausting times throughout the years.

Thankyou, for truly standing by me during my time of dire straits!


You are an outstanding honorable fine human being!!!
Knowing of your own personal journey! You are a amazing
success story of triumph!!!

Take wonderful care my friend, again many, many fine congratulations!!!