ok, my WH and I are out of town for the weekend. the plan behind it was to figure out by the end of it whether to work on the marriage or separate.
i don't think he's going to want to separate. so what i'm planning to tell him is this: if we stay together, we will call OW, together. tell her, either she quits her job on Monday or my WH does. i'm thinking she won't, although she has indicated she will quit and move away after tax season, but that is 2 months away and i can't live like this for 2 months.
i will then tell him if he so much as calls or texts her, much less screws her, he's out of the house. he has admitted that he is addicted to her and can't control himself around her.
also, once he has quit his job, he will change his e-mail accounts and cell phone number. he will still know her number, and i know he will be tempted to call or text her. i check his phone records daily.

anyway, what do yall think of my plan? is it too early for plan B? i think my WH wants our marriage to work, but i'm not sure he's ready or able to give up OW.

thanks
FO

I'm no expert (read my post count), but my understanding of Plan A is to show the WS what they're porentially giving up; & plan B is to protect the last vestige of love a BS has for a WS. As I see it your still in plan A (I recognise your name but not your details as I post). Have you exposed the A ??

ps. the 2 months wait is just a "foggy" excuse if you ask me. Myself - i couldn't give a [censored] about such things when my family is involved: i'd do the right thing.

Too much telling. You need him to give you input or see that he asks you for input.

What will he be doing? Right now it's all talk. He needs to show action.

L.

frogiving one...IMHO talk is cheap, very cheap...he is appeasing. don't give OW a chance to have contact with him..let him quit his job, until then plan A. will he read MB? do you have SAA? like orchid said, are there any actions?? I see in your sig line that he admitted the A, is that right...I guess that is an action... does he understand about withdrawal???