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is this normal
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Its been 5 months since d-day and my wife and I were going to make love this morning and as we were laying there caresing each other and a picture went through my head and I broke down crying.Its still so hard!Things between us are good and Im shure we are going to make it but.Its getting alot better now but I still break down about once a week or so.She gives me a big hug and holds me and tells me how sory she is.Is this normal?
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I would say that it is very normal. I think that breaking down once a week is actually pretty good. Usually if I break down or somehow show that I am hurting, all I get is a "Now what"? attitude.
Hang in there.

Married 23 yrs
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We have been married 26 years Love my wife so much it kills me
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I've been married 17 years and have been together for 24. I feel for you man. Did you post your story here yet? This place is an excellent source for help. Stick around and let the great people here help you! They sure have helped me.

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Yep, completely normal. It will get much easier as time goes by. In the meantime continue building NEW memories together. That helps too.
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She gives me a big hug and holds me and tells me how sory she is.Is this normal?

Sounds a truly repentant wayward spouse to me. And yes, it is normal. When your spouse has an affair it tears at the very fabric of your marriage. But, if her reaction is as you stated above, you've got a lot going for you and, with a lot of hard work on both parts, you will probably end up being one of the MB success stories.

God Bless.
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Thanks every body! We went to a love and respect mariage confrence las weekend it was really good.Its alot like mars and venius.You can shure see how you need to both wrk at a mariage.I show love she shows respect just keep the circle going.And when one doesnt show love she wont show respect bad circle.Thanks again

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