Tigger,

Alright, somethings have happened since I last posted. H has been home for about a week now and its been great! He deploys in 3 weeks which is scary but I know he'll come back safe and sound. I have talked with my MIL and also my mom. On Friday my MIL and my mom were talking about the trip down to GA to see my H deploy and to help me pack my things. My MIL has decided she is going to fly down to help my H's father catch a shuttle to get to our house. I dont understand it, he is a grown man and can catch a shuttle himself. She also wants to come down here a day early before my parents get here so they can "present" themselves as grandma and grandpap together. This will confuse the heck out of my two kids. So my mom told my MIL that you two are not married and that you two are not together so therfore you can't do that to two little ones who will not understand and of course my MIL justifies it all and everything. I wish i was there for the full convo but I wasn't. My mom said that if my MIL continues to push the issue of my H's father staying here and my MIL that they will find a hotel to stay at. Now i told my H the conversation between my mom and my MIL and he got ticked off. He is waiting for a good time to tell his mom that if you two are using this time as a get together then dont waste the time to come down here but go to CA and see him there, I don't want this happening in our house. It's not a good time. He told my parents that they don't have to find a hotel they are more then welcome in our house and that if his parents do come down here and plan a "reunion" then they can find a hotel and stay with themselves. He hasn't told her this yet he is just waiting for a good time.
I've really just distanced myself from the whole plan of things, not giving dates and not telling her the date my H will scheduled to deploy bc that can change at anytime.
On a good note, I did find out that my H and I are expecting are 3rd child sometime this year, I don't have a due date yet since we just found out this weekend, we are both excited and can't wait.Once I have an update on everything I will let you know tigger! Thanks for all the advice you have given me its been extremely helpful in helping this sticky situation!

Hey One_day,

Thank you for the update. I was wondering how you were doing, but didn't want to "impose" on this time before your H deploys. I know how precious time is for you right now. First, I want to congradulate you on the coming baby! Do you know if your H will be able to be home for the birth? I hope so.

Now, I think that you and your H have handled this sitch just about perfectly. The only thing that needs to be done is your H needs to tell his M and F how it is and will be. If he keeps putting it off, it's only going to be worse. I feel for you in the frustration of your MIL pushing them as a couple to your children, who, if I may be so bold, don't even know this man! Then, for her to want to spend extra time with out your own parents so the kids will know them as grandma and pap? I hate to say it, but she is sounding like many OW! Trying to make it all seem like one big happy family. Well, as far as you all know, F is still married, and the fact that MIL is helping plan all this stuff? Well, I say you are doing the right thing, and stick to your guns. I say "Kudos" to your Mom in handling the sitch the way she did.

Keep enjoying your time with hubby and take care of your babies! Thank you for the update and sharing your news with us! Keep us updated when you have the time! I'm glad I could help.

Tigger,

Thanks! I know he needs to tell her soon because its coming down to the wire he leaves in just 3 weeks but still no date! Yes to my knowledge his F is still married but seperated but not legally. Still doesn't make any of this right! I am extremely lucky because the OW in my case I talked to her twice and thats been almost 2 years ago and she has never bothered us, so I am fortuante to be pretty lucky on that end! I am hoping that he will be here for this babies birth. Last time he was deployed I had our daughter 3 days before he got home so I am hoping I can get a due date then i can tell my FRG and everything. Its kind of weird though. I was pregnant during his last deployment and this was when his ONS happened and here I am again pregnant with another deployment. Its just weird on the timing of things but FWH is happy but doesn't like the timing of this baby! O well things happen for a reason! Well I must go and get ready and see when this baby is due! Thanks Tigger and when he does tell his M i will def. let you know!!