not sure how to add a link to my thread but its not too far down the pipe.



I sent this to OM on Monday after I found out they instsnt mesaged each other . I also sent a copy to my wife. She was very unhappy.
Let me know if the content was appropriate.

Found out thru the voice recorder , in a conversation she was having with one of her girlfriends, that she e-mailed him and told him to ignore it. He said he hadn't received anything from me. She tells her friend thank GOD because if Steve had read it he probably would never want anything to do with me again.

Further along in the conversation, my wife says that "Mark" called her today, she has avoided answering his calls because the first one was him calling the wrong number. BUT she talked to him for a while anyway as he is some kind of player type working his charm with any woman willing to listen. Several more times after that, he called her and they talked. She has been avoiding his calls because she thinks it's scary. She tells her freind that he asked her to meet him, she told her friend it was kind of weird that she told him that wouldn't be a good idea right now as she is going through a lot of $hit right now. Then she says she doesn't even know him and he doesn't even know her. That she likes "STEVE" anyway!
She went on to describe the e-mail that I sent. Totally portraying me as a pathetic whimpering idiot. I couldn't hold back, I know that I should have kept it a secret but I asked her about it and of course she denied everything. So I pulled out the recorder and played it for her. I got up put my boots on told her to keep the recorder as a parting gift and said I was leaving.After she tried to pursuade me to stay for 30 mins. or so I kissed her on the forehead and left.

This morning I forwarded this e-mail to his 3 e-mail addy's including the one he has at work from her e-mail account. I am sure he will open them thinking they're from her.
Now I want to call him and confront the situation head on. I will be respectful merely stating my desire to fix our R and basically make sure thathe knows where I stand. Would that be a good idea or not?



Hey,
Thanks a lot for you compassion. Well here we are back to day one. I know of the phone calls since this e-mail. I know what you were doing with my wife in the past. You may think it's harmless fun . I know it's wrong you were having fun with my wife in a manner that is morally inexcusable. I thought that since you have been through a divorce you would be more understanding. Maybe help someone else avoid going thru that pain. In my opinion any continued contact with my wife Samantha means your Emotional Affair with her is on going.
What would you do in my shoes? Give up on your marriage, throw her out? Leave her and never look back? I don't think that any of those are an option. I love and care for Samantha more than you will ever know. I am willing to work thru all of our problems together to restore the love we once had. I firmly believe that we will stay married forever and will do whatever I can to see it thru.
Your continued contact with each other , however innocent it seems sends us backwards in this goal. We have both seen improvement in our life together. I feel that becoming fully commited to each other again is impossible when you are still around. There must be "NO CONTACT" between you forever. Once that is established Samantha and I can work on recovering our marriage . Until that happens any attempt at reconciliation is futile.

Steve,
I know this seems strange but please read my appeal.
I love Samantha more than you can imagine. I am trying to work out the problems in our marriage. I believe your relationship with Samantha is interfering with our efforts to fix our marriage. I also believe your relationship is leading to the destruction of our family. I would appreciate it if you would cease all communtication with Samantha.
I don't know much about you , Samantha says you are a nice guy so, I hope you understand where I am coming from. Once we get through this very painful but neccessary withdrawl phase Samantha and I can concentrate on each others needs. I believe that any further contact will only prolong the pain that we are feeling. I know that you said you wouldn't try to talk to her until she gets things straightened out in her head, I also believe that even seeing your online status will tempt her to chat "one more time" which would put us back to day one of this agony. Please understand that I care for Smantha deeply and don't want to see this pain for any longer than needs be.



With kind regards,
Dwayne

Pardner, it's been my experience that expecting the other person (OP) to be honorable is a losing proposition just about 99.99% of the time. These men wouldn't have become involved with a married woman if they had any integrity so...just what do you expect to happen as a result of sending these emails?


BTW, if you select the option to "Preview Reply" in your posts, when you click on "Continue" you'll have the ability to add special features to your post. Under the preview of how your text will look is a box labeled "Edit some more." One of the things you can edit is the ability to add a URL with which you can put in a link to whatever is appropriate in accordance with MB guidelines.

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