First of all, let me say that I have a one way ticket to divorce land after discovering my STBXW was on her second affair in a year, in fact, the D will be final in a little over a week. One thing about this whole thing I am going through is bugging me.

We are doing our divorce ourselves. We have practically no money, all of our property is all old and not worth much. We divided up the property, i gave her practically everything, I gave her more money than I took, I agreed to leave money she had hidden away alone... all for the lion share of custody of the kids. Basically, I have them 5 nights a week.

The conversation took less than a minute to negotiate for the kids 5 nights a week. Was this a bit too easy? Those of you who divorced and had kids, what do you think? I am one of the very rare people who even though I have the kids 70 percent of the time, i still pay her child support, and honestly, it doesn't bother me.

I am just bothered that my children's mother really gave them up so fast, chose a life on the social fast track rather than being a mother to 2 kids who really need her. I pride myself as a decent man, and I am the best father I know how to be. The kids love being around me, and I just try to be the parent who wants them around, and thinks of what they need before I think of what I need.

Am I just crazy, or what? Opinions?

Perhaps she surrendered the majority of custody ... knowing who was/is the better parent...???

i just had this conversation with my bf last week (also an mb member). i wish i could answer your question. i am a woman and there is NO WAY IN HE** i would just have my kids 2 days a week. no way. there is no way i would give up my kids so i could go and live the single life. my kids are my life. i do not understand at all a woman that can do that. yes, i think you are right in having it bother you.

i also do not think you should be paying her child support, sounds like she should be paying it to you with how much you have them. there is being the bigger person and than there is just being the person who is being taken advantage of. you need that money to take care of your kids! if she only has them 2 days a week what is she spending it on? herself probably. i'd stop that free flowing money train right now if i were you.

mlhb

kuky you need to provide more details on what your WW pattern has been, is she going out, is she in singles mode?

Is she in the fog? 2 Affairs in one year is short time period, if looking at the bigger picture.

If she is not going to be your friend after the D, then why give her so much.

Is she going to help with college, with medical?

You should follow your state guidelines for CS, no more no less