toysrwill, LLB, taz37678,JAG313 - Okay, it's important that you all get some help and some guidance, so please post your stories and questions on the Infidelity Forum General Questions II.
Most of those who can help you regulary read and post on that forum whereas this one gets very limited traffic.
Tonight my wife of ten years and we have two daughters told me she loves me but is not in love with me. And no I don't quite understand that statement. She doesn't know what she wants. All she says is I don't know.
toysrwill - this is the most typical "opening salvo" from a spouse who IS in an Affair. I heard it and virutally all BS's (Betrayed Spouses) have heard it from their WS (Wayward Spouse). Post on GQ II for some immediate help.
I don't know where to start I need a Question answered My Husband wants out. He has a physical problem He is impotenant. But that isn't all our problems. Can this problem be fixed?
LLB - the short answer is "yes" the problem can be fixed. But before going there the first question that needs to be answered is "is the impotency caused by a real physcial problem or by a mental problem?" I assume that he was not always impotent, so something has changed from "back then."
Post on GQ II. Several members have dealt with this issue.
your not the only one, i was engaged up until friday, i have a baby girl, one thing i found to help a lot are my friends, being able to talk to them and them not being one sided, they are there for my, i dont know what to call her now, but they are there for her as well.
taz - your wife is presumably in an affair. Your "friends" may think they "mean well," but if they are "there for" your wife, they are what around here are called "enablers."
Suffice it to say, if they "tolerate" infidelity, they have never experienced it for themselves nor do they have a clue how to help end an affair and recover a marriage. If you want good help, please post on General Questions II.
Now my wife says she feels like she wants a divorce from what would seem like a pretty good marriage. I don't get it either.
JAG313 - your wife, also, is having an affair. Get yourself over to the General Questions II forum pronto!
I also noticed that you received some 'advice' from Aphaeresis on the Divorced/Divorcing Forum. Be careful with what she says as she is a WS who has had at least 5 affairs and has not told her husband yet.
Stick with the people who have been through this mess for advice you may want to implement.
All - read all you can on this site about Affairs. Be voracious readers. If you don't own them yet, get at least two books that will help you understand what is happening and how to help save your marriages.
Torn Asunder by Dave Carder
Surviving An Affair by Dr. Willard Harley (the founder of Marriage Builders
See you all on GQ II!
Remember, all is NOT lost and you CAN recover your marriages.
