Hey Pilgrim.... any news? havent heard anything since your trip out to the mountains.....

LITW

Hi Lost,
First chance i've had to log on since back from trip to Alps. Well things are really strange. I did poorly on holiday and texted W quite a bit. Night before coming home i asked her if she was going to stay, she kept saying she didn't know and enjoy the holiday. I got it in my head that this was just evasive tactics on her behalf so i asked her to be honest. The reply came back that she would probably go back to FIL in my return from holiday. Gutted!
However, on my return we had good chat and in the end she stayed. It was great as i lay next to her again (something i never believed that would happen again). I laid next to her and said a quiet prayer to God to thank Him and also to ask for continuation with His help. We sepnt all next day together and it was great but i asked if she was staying over again and her answer was no. I told her how i felt about her but she just said she didn't love me anymore and it wasn't right and she shouldn't have stayed the previous night. I told her i wanted to sort our marriage out for all our sakes, hers, mine, families, pets etc etc. Poss DJ?? She said she was unsure and left to see FIL. I didn't think sje would come bck but alas she did. I was in bed and she turned up, undressed and jumped in next to me. I gave her a hug and a kiss and a thankyou and i was in happy land again!!!! I told her i know this doesn't mean that all is good and rosy but it is the first small step in a long journey.
BUT.......I still feel she is not keen on staying as there is no proper commitment to it.
Tonight she has gone away to some customer complaints procedure course about 100 miles away. She is stopping in hotel tonight and coming back tomorrow. She has left some of her clothes here so fingers crossed we can share our bed again tomorrow night.
I am trying hard not to get excited about this and i am trying to take this day by day and enjoying our time together. But boy it is hard.
Just done last bit of plan A for day. She just sent TM to say got there ok. I sent one back saying "Glad your ok. Sleep tight and have a good day tomorrow. Its great you are willing to learn and should be proud of yourself. I AM. Love you x"

Hey Pilgrim!
Glad to hear from you!!! well things seem to have improved a bit.... just keep up with plan A.... she may come around..... watch for those dj's though..... they can withdrawls from her love account faster than you can probably put them in....

Hi All
Sorry haven't been on in a long time. Brief update for you.
What a rollercoaster of emotions this life is! From the highs of my last post to the very deep lows of today. My W has said she no longer wishes to carry on with our M and all she wants is to be on her own and have a fresh start. She no longer loves me in the intimate way and although she agrees that i love her she is unable to move home and try and sort things out due to the way she feels. She says there is no point trying to reconcile when her head is not in it and she would not be able to try. I have tried everything to make this happen and i am very very close to just giving up.
I do love her and do not want to lose what is the most precious thing in my life but i feel it is all just slipping thru my fingers and i am powerless to prevent it.
I have plan A'ed and plan A'ed but to no avail. Is it time for Plan B???
I do not feel my heart and head are in sync yet but reading other posts is it ever? I really don't want to break contact wth her. It is so hard to avoid seeing her in this small town (4000 people). But Plan B will let her know what she really is letting go right?
She is coming around this evening to see me and i know that this could well be the final nail in our marriage coffin. I hope not but even tho FIL has spoken to her she will not relent and try to save our M.
Help, help and more help. There is no one else involved, just like someone mentioned earlier in the thread she is a want away wife.
Any of you guys out there got any tips on this type of scenerio, would be glad to hear them.
Will try to keep plan A'ing tonight but it gets harder and harder.
Will try and post results later or tomorrow

Hey Pillgrim,
You have not left my prayers or thoughts. I am sorry to hear that things are not going well. The only suggestion that comes to mind at this point is... How would you feel about printing out this entire thread and sharing with her? Explain in a calm and collected manner that you found MB and had decided to share your situation in order to get advice, help, and discernment in how to help your marriage..... explain that you understand what she has said but before she makes a final last nail in the coffin decision you want to share this with her and see if it would change her mind at all.... even a little....

at this point what do you have to loose?

Keep us posted and I will be praying!
LITW