OK so I'm new to this forum but need some advice! My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and Im about to go nuts! He has this thing were EVERY morning he lets his FOUR alarms go off for 20 minutes or more! He hits the snooze a bunch and it basically comes down to 1 alarm every 2 minutes for 20-30 minutes. I know this seems like not a huge thing but this has been going on for 5 years and has caused quite a few arguements. I try to handle it as best I can but there are mornings I just cant handle it at all and end up crying because it is driving me absolutely bonkers!! Does anyone have any advice??? It's to the point he is now going to start sleeping in the Livingroom.....which means now I have to get out of the bed to go get him to turn them off. GRRRRR.
PS- He doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with this behavior. I told him maybe he should consider a hypnotist or something on that order and he told me to consider earplugs =!

You could try getting up before he does to start your day. Upon rising, take a second to artfully arrange all 4 alarm clocks in a small circle around his head.

No wait...get up first, and turn off 3 of the alarms.

Personally, I'm going through something where I am having great difficulty hearing my alarm clock in the morning. But, it's a clock radio and has a volume control. I like to go to sleep to soft music so I, as a consequence, have a soft alarm. I slept through 1.5 hours of it Sunday.

Thanks for the input. I have tried the whole putting the alarms around his head thing and still no change, in fact it just made it easier for him to hit the snooze button. =(
I just dont know what to do. I asked a friend the other day and she had some great advice. She said you have two options....1=be angry and end up argueing and than let it lead to divorce over some alarms. or 2=pray and ask god for the patience to deal with it or at least for some help on him changing ...one of the two either would be helpful.

I have been praying but it is exceptionally hard to wait on something to just give but some peace and quiet would be great. I know it seems like such a little thing I mean come on some stupid alarm has got me so upset im asking for advice from total strangers. but really it is a big issue and I just keep getting angrier. Hopefully something will give soon.

MNC,

What is the difference in the times you want to get up and when he needs to get up in the morning?

Also, this is pretty serious stuff...you're now sleeping apart. That's nothing to sneeze at.

LA

Hi MrsNC,

Yikes.I don't know how you put up with that business for 5 years.

On a basic level,it seems your husband(H) has a problem being motivated to get up and maybe even some sleep issues going on? Lot's of people have bad habits that, when you marry them,you come to realize just how strange some people are living out there.In my opinion,this morning routine is anything but normal.

If you don't mind my asking,what does he do for a living? Is he happy with his job? How are the other areas of your life: sex,communication,time spent together,etc? Do you have kids?

Not knowing the whole story,it's quite possible that he has lived his life with this habit,now he's married and figured you would just accept his behavior,which you essentially have.But I agree it's serious since you are now separating from your sleep area.That is not a step in the right direction.

There was a poster on another board here who had a girlfriend who was chronically messy and also slept ( didn't get up) til about 12-1pm every morning.Needless to say things didn't work out between them.Don't let that happen to your marriage.Seek professional help if you must but try to solve the problem with him instead of getting angry about it.

Good luck

Easy. Wake up first, and then wake him up so that he does not have to use the alarms.

What am I missing?

Well,what if she doesn't need to get up before him? That puts the onus of solving the alarm issue on her alone.

Plus,if I was constantly woken up early when I didn't need to be up,I would be a bit disgruntled too.Especially when I don't get home until midnight sometimes.I need my sleep and probably would be very grouchy if that persisted and I didn't feel there was a way out of the situation.

They need to work on the problem together.

MrsNC,are you still reading?