I woke up friday morning and just decided to expose my W affair to the OMW. told her i had proof and conversations. the OMW came to me immediately, we talked and she listened, then she exploded upon him. i felt bad for her, just finding out, me and OMW met friday night, talked for about 3 hours, had some drinks, and it made me feel alot better. the OM still doesnt admit to affair, even while she played a tape conversation between my W and OM talking about it. Over the weekend me and the OMW have become good friends. Wish i would have known how she was while i suspected things, cause we couldve teamed up against them!!! I AM THRILLED THAT I EXPOSED EVERYTHING IN THE OPEN! NOW I FEEL LIKE THEY ARE GOIN THROUGH THE SAME THING I HAVE BEEN! i feel sorry for OMW, but felt she needed to know. and there are many suspicions that there are many other women, seeing how he is a doctor. THANKS

Awesome! Good for you!

Beware getting too close to OMW. You both might be vulnerable to a revenge affair, just to show 'em.

How are things now? What's your plan for going forward?

Things are going better, i am trying to work things out, we are seeing a marriage counselor. its very tough, but im trying. As far as OMW, im not staying in there business, its not my life, i just wanted OMW to know she was being done wrong. Wife resigned from her position, because of the conflict. The only bad thing now, is were together with one income. How do you gain Trust for your W to go anywhere else??? Any ideas on anything would be helpful

Good job on exposure

Work the MB program.

Spend at the very least 15 hours a week together.

Trust doesn't happen overnight. In fact, you'd be a fool to trust her right away.

Recovery takes many months. It is a slow progression. 2 years is the norm but that's not to say you won't feel recovered before that. It just takes a long time to shake all this stuff out.

Check into a MB weekend on the main website.

I'm proud your wife quit. That took guts on her part. Would have been nice to get a small severance such that you two can have some security as you attempt to rebuild your marriage. I bet they are scared crapless that you may sue...if you are inclined at all in this area...you could seek legal counsel. Even a letter offering a "settlement" for a small fee is likely to be favorably received just to avoid a lawsuit. Don't try to do this yourself. Hire a lawyer. OM was her superior...he used his position, in part, to victimize YOU (your wife is culpable for her behavior)....he's got money, presumably, and should pay. (I personally am not telling you to try to cash in on this situation...rather, a small stipend to help your family get through this period...maybe even a request HE pay for your marriage builders weekend seminar).

Good luck.

Mr. Wondering