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I have decided after counseling and observation that the issue surrounding my WW existance isn't something that will be overcomed. So I am 30 days away from our 1 year anniversary of our separation where I can file divorce. I think I will go ahead and file and be done with that.
I am still working on getting custody of my children which she is making it easier by her continued actions.
I am however every happy with life and would like to start thinking about finding someone to share time with. I have focused solely on my girls since last March and wont change that but we are at 50/50 custody so I now have time that isn't occupied.
I am wondering if there is a proper way to conclude this phase of my life.
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No such thing as a proper way.....Vike, Sorry! Do the right thing...protect yourself, your children, let your WW suffer the consequences of her actions, become a better man, friend, potential mate and father through self reflection, improvement, get in church, help others,
No magic wand my friend. It's tough but you just and are surviving one of the worst things anyone could have to go through and you are still kicking!!!
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VR,
I think the proper way is to file for divorce when you can. Obtain the divorce and then begin to see who or what is out there for you. My guess is that although you have been separated for almost a year the actual fact of the divorce will be a bit of a shock. I am not saying you won't welcome it on some level, but the reality of it will be.
So it seems to me you do as the previous poster mentioned, but walk this out step by step. File for D, get D, then move on with your life having set down the baggage from this and taking with you the lessons learned.
Those are my thoughts.
God Bless,
JL
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Nope, Viking, there's no graceful way of doing Plan D. In fact, it's probably one of those oxymoron things to even suggest there might be a smooth way to get through it. Pardner, just do things in the right order and the divorce itself will become the process by which you transition into a new phase in your life. Don’t stoop to your WW’s level by engaging in an outside relationship before the divorce is final. You’ve been “alone” for a year now and you can last a little longer. Tough it out, Marine. Your kids deserve one parent with integrity.
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