.....because BF and I actually talked about marriage.

As in doing it w/in the next 1-1 1/2 yrs

As in He+I=married <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

HOLY MOLY! I'm shocked, AT MYSELF, that I'd ever think or want to re-marry. Nope, it was not for me, was never gonna do it EVER. But this man has turned me and my world upside down. In a good way <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Guess we've moved into the Buyer's phase <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Still no hurry or specific timeline. The only big issue for us is deciding where to live....he's got some custody issues w/ his ex coming up, so we need to let that play out, and I don't want to move my daughter out of our top notch school district. He's willing to move to my neck of the woods, but like I referenced earlier, we need to see what happens w/ his kids in the next few months.

Anyone out there face a similar issue? Would definitely love some input

DW <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

well, we have not specifically discussed marriage, but have talked about being able to see us in eachother's lives for a lifetime type stuff....

just because i had a bad marriage and made a mistake the first time around does not mean i am at all opposed to marriage. i would remarry. i do believe i could have a good marriage from what i learned in my first marriage, and learning from mistakes, etc... i do believe a good happy marriage is possible.

good for you! it will be fun planning this i would imagine. you must be all giddy inside. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

keep us posted.
mlhb

and we ALL want invites as well!!!!!

First off ((((Landica)).....

I really appreciate you sharing your story w/ me. Definitely a real eye opener. FWIW, as painful as it must have been, I think you did the right thing for you and your S.

I too hope for a better outcome for BF and I. His battle right now is more about child support but became somewhat of a custody issue also when his ex decided to use the kids by decreasing his time w/ them, against him ,b/c she was basically pissed off that he hired a lawyer to get CS modified. He's no dead beat dad. He's only looking to make things more equitable, since she's gone from a SAHM to a full time, well paid career, where he then shared 50/50 custody (b/c of her work shedule) and still paid CS like she was still a SAHM. Anyhoo, he wants to get 50/50 custody, IN WRITING, so she can't pull anymore stunts like this when she's angry w/ him. Your point is well taken. I've already seen the emotional toll that's it's taken on him, especially when things were pretty darn good b/w them, very amicable, w/ an excellent co-parenting sitch. He's been stunned at her behavior and what she's been capable of doing. Through it all so far, he's been pretty good, has keep the communication lines open b/w us, and his behavior towards my D has not changed one bit. I'm comforted by that a great deal. In fact, their relationship has improved, in part b/c he misses his kids so much, and appreciates having my girl around. I'll keep an eagle eye out though for any changes, b/c my girl is MY GIRL, kwim? I have to say, he's handled himself very well under the stress and it's brought us closer. His battle has just begun, so how it plays out ultimately remains to be seen....

I am a bit worried about deciding where to live and I certainly hope it will not be the "make or break" for us. Again, time will tell. One big hurdle at a time.

Again, thank you thank you thank you for your input! I truly mean that.

DW