Yes, we've all seen it on Oprah, on the Internet, now the DVD is out, and I really enjoyed it. Has anyone ever thought of using this as a tool in this process of recovering from infidelity? One thing I will have to say is it certainly lifts you up when you're feeling down. You may have to watch it several times for it to help on those doggy-downer days...anyone?

No, I honestly didn't think of this for infidelity. I saw the Secret at my sister's around the holidays, I thought it was great and have been meaning to order it.

My hubby liked it too, so maybe it would be good to incorporate recovery into the use of this. In our sitch oor business failed, we are near backrupt, I live in another city during the w/e and home on the weekends, our YS is into drugs, our OS is lost and depressed, we both are scheduled to go to the dr's to go back on AD's, hmm, I could go on but you get the point, the infidelity isn't erased or not thought of (mostly daily on my part), but we have lots of reasons to try to use something like the Secret to help us.

What are your thoughts as to how it could be used for recovery of A's?

I have the DVD, but was in recovery from the infidelity long before I came across the video.

However, some of the supporting books that also describe the message of "the secret" I have used extensively in my personal recovery journal.

The short list includes:
You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor (who appears in the movie THE SECRET)
EXCUSE ME: Your Life Is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Law of Success by Napoleon Hill
The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav
7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R Covey
First Things First by Stephen R Covey
What Matters Most by Hyrum Smith
Toughness Training for Life by James Loehr

And there's the book I'm reading right now that is the perfect follow up for seeing "THE SECRET" - and that's called "Attractor Factor" - can't remember the author - the book's on my desk at work.

Each book led me to take ownership of my thoughts and feelings, and what I bring into my life - including my husband's behavior. Once I reached that stage, then some things didn't seem to matter as much. Some things seemed to matter much more. It makes a difference!

I saw it online and waiting for my DVD to come in. I'm using it as a way to focus more on myself, and make myself happy. Definately boosts your mood when you look around at what you have and feel grateful for what you have at this point in your life. Anyhow I'm going to use the law of attraction by focusing on my marriage instead of thinking I don't want a divorce.