I can only tell you what I did. Do you know where she's from?

In my case, I knew my OM was from NH. I did a FREE intellius search, and it showed her names, a few previous addresses (city and state only), and ONE relative. I did a address search of the relative's name for the previous locations where OM lived, and I found just a couple possibilities. I called each one and asked them if they had a son named Phil.

Or you could hire someone who is better equipped to do these things.

Seems fine to me!



Also, I wonder what her ex husband would say about her having an affair partner and introducing him to her children (if she has any?).

Good job as far as I am concerned.

PS I had my OM calling ME the other day begging me not to tell his STBXW something that would cause him grief. He said "I know you don't owe me anything..." I said "Well, that's good that know and recognize that..." Perfect silence on the other end of the phone.....He can thank God that my two children exist or he would be crapping from two holes.

MF, please stop communicating with his OW. She will only use anything you say to mock and harm you. You are much better than her, so don't stoop to corresponding with a pig. She is in the pig pen, don't join her. Much better to just work behind the scenes and quietly expose her instead of wallering in the mud with her.

Thanks, Mel, I know this, I just had to get it out. One time. I'm done, I promise.

Back to searching for her parents, ex-husband, brother...whatever.

Heigh ho, heigh ho, it's off to work I go!

Now that you feel better for calling her the homewrecking, wh*re, POS, lying, kniving, crappola she is (you do feel better, I know you do <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />), DO AS MEL says, no more contact with OW. Expose and then expose some more.

I read the running message board and looked at OW's profile .... interesting ... it includes her EMAIL addy .... >scratches chin< ..... hmmmmmmmm

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now it makes sense to me.
thank you.

For $100, you can get anything you want. Try intellius.com.

WOW - I found that board, and I am IN AWE of you.
Handled yourself with dignity and class.

And did you ever kick the hornets nest!!

Now that's exposure. A+

nothing says KICKASS EXPOSURE like a locked thread on a discussion board !

BWHaaaaaaaaaaaa

I don't blame you one bit for letting her have it.

Somehow she thought having an affair and breaking up a family would be dignified.

Piece of work that one. It'll never last, in fact I bet that A's on it's last legs as we speak.

I hope you expose to every possible relative, friend, colleague, acquaintance, her dentist and her darn dry cleaner.

If their love is so great and perfect what does she have to hide?

Wow, thanks Lex!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm kinda proud of myself too... I never got mean, nasty, rude or ugly, like SOME of those people over there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> They were WHACKY!

Oh, here's another thread that someone started over there for me....if anyone is interested!

http://www.coolrunning.com/forums/Forum1/HTML/150943.shtml

I'm a superstar over there....of sorts. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yup....pretty cool, huh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Hey, how about a show of hands for Operation Clog-the-email-addys?

No - I don't think I'd do the "clog the e-mail" thing - too many ways that could backfire on you. You don't want to give her any legit reason to try and file a legal RO on you.

I'd love to see her reaction to the job exposure thing though. You may want to do a pre-emptive on her and file for an RO based on her harrassing phone calls repeatedly to your house and screaming foul obscenities at you...

Good idea, KA, the last thing I need is to be cast as a freaky wife, so what's done is done, but we don't need anymore...BTW, does anyone know if in the state of CA, you have to have physical proof for a RO, does anyone know? Or is verbal "proof" enough?

You have physical proof - you made one call to inform her to stay away - she retaliated with how many calls before the phone got smashed? the cell phone records should suffice - with time/date stamp? All you have to do is journal the tone and her e-mail continues with that predatory thing too.

The final nail is if your husband also testifies that he told her to not call anymore and how she has threatened you. If he wants his life back, he'd better tell the truth about this! Cause this is only step 1 of many toward true recovery instead of the phony-baloney-smoke he blew around the recovery board about wanting your trust!

Does your WH know that you post on this forum, or do you care if he finds out? Now that jmwc95 posted on the running forum w/the same username, it's only a Google away...

Nah, I don't care...even after all this, WH is right back in the justified / I-can-be-a-pr***-whenever-I-want-to mode, still thinks he can talk to me disrespectfully (like he hasn't disrespected me enough), and that things are going to be ok. He thinks he can send me an email about how he went to church and cried for two hours, and then treat me like this, in front of the kids and everything. And when I asked for a LITTLE bit of grace since I've been to ****** and back over the past 10 months, you would have thought I had asked for the moon.

It's over. I'm filing for D ASAP. I've already talked to one, said I will pretty much get whatever I ask for. I should be able to file by Monday.I don't even care if he ends up with her. They probably deserve each other. I know I deserve better. I'm the only one who can hold my head up in this mess and say that I know I did my best.

Because I did.

He can make me out to be the bad guy all he wants. I'M the one in counseling, trying to be a better wife; I'M the one asking him what his EN's are so I can meet them better; I'M the one trying to save this M for our kids.

But, I'm done.