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I'm so sorry, MF. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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truthfully
you're sort of on an anger high right now .... prepare for the downswing.... and hang on
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No - I don't think I'd do the "clog the e-mail" thing - too many ways that could backfire on you. You don't want to give her any legit reason to try and file a legal RO on you.
I'd love to see her reaction to the job exposure thing though. You may want to do a pre-emptive on her and file for an RO based on her harrassing phone calls repeatedly to your house and screaming foul obscenities at you... Good idea, KA, the last thing I need is to be cast as a freaky wife, so what's done is done, but we don't need anymore...BTW, does anyone know if in the state of CA, you have to have physical proof for a RO, does anyone know? Or is verbal "proof" enough? I'm not telling you what to do, but I would suggest that you edit her email addys out of your post here. I would imagine there are people who would enjoy saying something to her that may just cross the line and you, in the end, will pay for that. Remember this is a very public forum and anyone can see it, not just people who want to help you. If people happen to get her email addy because of the info she posted on the running board, so be it, but if they get it here and harass her, where does that put you?
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My husband had an affair where we had more than one false recovery....and he had a very entitled attitude...yet we are one the other side of his affairs...recovered and doing great.
I know you say your done...that is ok...no one will fault you for it. But, if he changes his tune and backs it up with actions, I hope you will be open to reconsider. You have been through a lot and I simpathize. My H had a 4 yr A then 4 yrs after that big one ended he had another 8 month A with someone else...sometimes it takes some a bit longer to get it and appreciate all the changes you've made and the actions you've taken to try to save your marriage.
How about a counseling session with SH for him and then the both of you?
Married 1976
Me:BS
Him:FWS
MB Weekend March 2003
2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82
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Hello Trix,
I wrote you an email with regard to your situation. I'm hoping you can give me some advice. MarriedForever and I are in the same boat. I thought the contact had ended completely, but now I find out that it hadn't and that I was being lied to. This recent revelation has really knocked me off balance just when I was beginning to feel safe moving forward.
I hope you will have a moment to respond to my email. Your posts have been most helpful thusfar.
MarriedForever.......you have been in my thoughts. I hope you are feeling stronger everyday. I wish you the best in this journey.
WS 48
BS 44
DD 6
Married 22 years
DDay 5-20-06
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Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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