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Oh, I can not take it anymore! What is with these creatures that they think they are so darn entitled!!!???

My DH's (dear hubby's) exW just takes the cake! She had the affair. She moved out. She left him. She left the kids. She lied to his family and they believed her (for a long time). She has had FIVE (count 'em--FIVE) affairs since she was dumped by the OM who was her "soulmate." She was going to school to be a lawyer and couldn't pass the Ethics Exam (haha--I know why <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />), and somehow, miraculously, the week before graduation the professor passed her. Now she can't pass the Bar Exam because they won't let her cheat . She has arthritis in her one shoulder, and she asked for a couch, breaks, and twice as long to take the test, and THE NERVE--the Bar said "no" so she sued them!! She can't get a legal job anywhere (gee, I wonder why), has bills up the wazoo, lost her home because she can't/won't get a job, and literally has not seen or spoken to her own kids in three months.

As if all that wasn't enough, she is now living with a 25yo college student. He is a record clerk by day and a theater major by night...so he acts in plays. Anyway, as I said the kids live with us. She had the 42 days last year...yeah 42 whole days. She never paid a dime toward their support--just lost her house on her own because she can't work because...well...see above. So when my DH went to file his taxes this year, he ASKED HER, "Can I claim the kids this year" and she said yes and I told him to get it in writing. He did.

Today, she calls and SHE WANTS PART OF OUR TAX RETURN SO SHE CAN USE IT AS A DEPOSIT FOR HER HOUSE!!!!! No kidding. I'm not making this up! Can you BELIEVE IT??

I am <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />...I mean just <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Is she for real?? How can she possibly justify such entitlement? SERIOUSLY!!

(breathing deeply)

(more deep breaths)

Okay--I'm better now. You may return to your regularly scheduled programming already in progress.

~~CJ

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(((CJ)))

Charming isn't she. I wonder which STI's she's picked up or all of them. Micro colony on to her own.


Sounds like she's interbred relative of my exh de-ranged attachments.


They act the same, talk the same, behave the insane, read the same scripts, cracked in the membrane...


Here I thought I got all the gonzo loonies...


Keep venting, get it all out...


The woman needs to see a VET. Maybe book an appointment for her? I dunno Rabbies ??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />



As they say... Cream rises to the top and so does Scum. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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So she feels entitled b/c in allowing him to claim the kids he gets a bigger refund?

Eh, I can see in her dysfunctional mind how that might make sense. Never mind that the kids have only lived w/ her a mere 1 1/2 months of that year <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

All I have to say is thank goodness he got it in writing. She sounds like a nightmare


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[color:"purple"] Today, she calls and SHE WANTS PART OF OUR TAX RETURN SO SHE CAN USE IT AS A DEPOSIT FOR HER HOUSE!!!!! No kidding. I'm not making this up! Can you BELIEVE IT??
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[color:"red"] SHUT .... UP !!!!!!!!!!! .... shut up shut up !!!!!!! [/color]

I am rolling on the floor laffin' my cute [censored] off .... this is freakishly funny <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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pepper,
your sig line de jour is soooooooooooooo true!
are there any countries, i'd like to know, where it WOULD be legal????

u let me know
mlhb


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pepper,
your sig line de jour is soooooooooooooo true!
are there any countries, i'd like to know, where it WOULD be legal????

u let me know
mlhb

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I ain't tellin'

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The vision of Pep rolling on the ground laughing is enough to cheer me up!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Oh--BTW, DH was able to 'splain it to me. You see, since she was "gracious" enough to allow us to claim the kids (since we supported them all year) she "deserves" some of the money. Isn't that twisted?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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CJ - that woman sounds like she is an example of why we should have retroactive birth control.....

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Hey, maybe you could let her have some of the money after she pays the appropriate amount of child support.

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You know what? Your H shouldn't bother asking her if he can claim the kids, even it if is in the divorce papers that she is supposed to claim them.

For one thing, as the non-custodial parent, SHE is supposed to provide IRS with a form signed by your H that allows her to claim them.

For another thing, she would have to provide IRS with PROOF that she provided more than 1/2 of their support.

Last, but not least, if she threatens to haul your H into court for contempt, all he has to do is say, "That's a really good idea...and while we're in court, maybe we can clear up that lil' problem of your non-payment of child support." Believe me...she does NOT want to go to court!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Just be sure that you file your tax returns as soon as possible each year...cuz the first one who files gets the dependents! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

She kinda reminds me of our ex-DiL. The year after her and DS's divorce, (he claims the kids) she asked him how much of a refund he was getting. He told her it was none of her business.

She said, "Oh, I was just wondering how much money I could expect."

He said, "None."

She got mad and said, "I'm entitled to half of your refund!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

"Oh? Just how do you figure that?" asked DS.

"Well, because I'm your wife!" she exclaimed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

"Huh? Ummmm...I have papers that say you're not, and I understand that you have papers that say you're OM's wife now."

She insisted, "That doesn't matter. I'll ALWAYS be your wife, because I'm the mother of your children!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Needless to say, he didn't give her diddly-squat! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Where I come from we describe people like that as "living off the land". I don't know where the saying originated but it goes something like this -

"Hey, I saw so&so the other day."

"Really? Is she still living off the land?"

"Oh yeah."

This is usually followed by some all knowing chuckles and eye rolls.

I guess it is just a more civilized way of saying "is she still ****** around expecting everyone else to pay for her very existance, while she contributes nothing?

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weaver!! I thought "living off the land" meant FARMING!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

CJ -- I'll get mail out to you today... HUGS, friend... you KNOW how well I understand!

ETA: CJ ~~ I just sent email to the addy on your post. Talk to you SOON! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />



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CJ, too funny.
Tell her you'll send her a bill for the balance of the CS she owes.


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Your most royal majesty--My thoughts perxactly. I have already created the CS invoice and deducted her "half" of the tax refund...that means she only owes us $3000 now!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Lady Clueless--This is why I love my new hubby. He said, "I have already received my refund" When she explained that she wanted half, he said, "You have not supported the kids all year; my new wife has worked her a$$ off to take care of your obligations, and even according to IRS rules I provided WAY more than 1/2 of the support last year. There is no court in the land that would require me to give you half of my refund. I suggest your borrow money from your current BF." I LOVE that man!! BTW, I think your ex-DIL may have taken lessons from my DH's ex. Maybe they're related somehow...hmmmmm... I think the funniest line is this: (quote) "...That doesn't matter. I'll ALWAYS be your wife, because I'm the mother of your children!" THAT DOESN'T MATTER!!! THAT DOESN'T MATTER!!! I'm telling you, the entitlement is a delusion of some sort.

weaver--MAN! I always thought that meant farming too! But your version is SO accurate! "...still ****** around expecting everyone else to pay for her very existence, while she contributes nothing?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> DING-DING-DING...that's her! Where is the "Uh Huh" smiley when you need it?? I believe this is why she has had FIVE relationships already since her divorce...they guys get wise and dump her!

New-beginning--I still can't get over tripping over you here!! I am so happy I could Snoopy Dance again--but then I would spill my coffee and we can't have that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I am looking in my email now!!! (((((((((((((((((((NB))))))))))))

newly--Oh, I love my state's CS too. The assume that any adult has the capacity to earn the minimum wage...so even if she cries poor and "I have no job" they say, "Tough, lady. You are an adult and at least have the capacity to earn minimum wage" and they compute CS using that figure. Kinda "encourages" her to work! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for all the responses, folks. I didn't really expect any. I just figured you would understand and had to blow off a little steam. EX'S!!!!!!!!!!!

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Oh the world owes me a living
Deedle dardle doodle deedle dum
Oh the world owes me a living
Deedle dardle doodle deedle dum



If I worked hard all day I might
Sleep badder when in bed at night
I sleep all day so that's alright
Deedle dardle doodle deedle dum

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Can you BELIEVE IT??


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Beam me up Scotty!

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Alienland......unbelievable!

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GDP, I didn't know there was an entitlement song. How funny.

I laugh now when I see X and GF together because she doesn't work a "traditional" job. I suspect they continue to lie to each other about how much money they have. They can have each other, I just wish they were happier about it, it would make my life so much easier.


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Can i use this opportunity to vent about my H's ex wife?

In the spring of last year she calls us wanting to know if she can have a bunch of toys the son has outgrown for her other two kids??

WHAT???? Ummmmm, no.

She left him when she was pregnant with OM's child and she wants to know if she can have toys H paid for????

Can you say entitlement?? Needless to say she didn't get the toys. I'd rather give them to Goodwill than to her.

I could not imagine calling my exH to ask him if I could have some of the toys from his house for my stepson. But yet she saw absolutely nothing wrong with the request apparently.

She's also very manipulative to my mother in law- who is very nice to her because of the grandson.

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At a couple of points in my life, I made tons of money trading in the stock market, and specialized in crashes. . . I no longer trade that way, i don't have time now that i have a job to support a leech. . .

This week, X calls me up to discuss something, and then says, "Did you make alot in the crash?" now this is the first time in 25 years, she has ever asked me about trading, and she convinced herself emotionally that I am bad because my professional life deals with money, and she is a poor school teacher, all school teachers are poor, no matter how much they make and how much the leech off of others. . . and she used the stock market against me legally to get more money in CS which nearly bankrupted me. . .

so what is it with these people and entitlement?

my answer was that I don't do that any more, i don't have time. . .

why did I even think i loved that woman, i will never know, because now i know why i saw the red flags, but truly didn't understand them. ..

although the remarried Xwives asking for part of the refund truly takes the cake award for out of touch.

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OK, here's mine. My birthday weekend happened to fall on a three day weekend when ex was scheduled to have the kids. Two weeks before he asks me to switch weekends with him. I say no, I have plans. He asks again, again I say no. I ask the boys if their father has plans for that weekend & they tell me his gf has her class reunion & she wants the whole weekend free.

ex asks again this time reminding me it's my birthday weekend & wouldn't it be nice to have "a birthday breakfast with the boys?" Not words ex would ever have thought of on his own so I know it's gf hand up his backside making his mouth move as she does the talking.

Still makes me smile.


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