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Today, is my birthday and I wanted everyone to know that time does heal wounds.It's been almost a year of intense rebuilding after my H big mistake. I didn't think that I could live with this, but here I am. He has been so wonderful and caring about everything, and he shows true remorse. He says that he loves me sooo much and that I am his life. Then why is it so difficult for me to forgive him? You,<BR>my friends here have helped me so much to get to this point and I will be forever thankful.<BR>Anyway, I know that today will be a great day!!
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Happy B-day!!!! It doesn't get any better than this, huh? Hope you have a great day .... H got any "surprises" up his sleeve for you tonight?<P>(I mean like jewelry, dinner, etc.)<P>LOL
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Happy Birthday Suzy! I am so glad you are feeling so good. Forgiveness is the hardest thing, I too, still struggle with it. But, you are having a great day and we all wish you the Happiest of Happy Birthday's!! <P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P><BR>
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Thumbs up with greetings for your birthday and a year of recovery success.<P>
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Suzy Q,<BR>Sending you a BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY and LOTS of GOOD WISHES for a GREAT next year!!!!!!!<P>PS. I have forgiven my H for the pain that he has put me through, but not for having the affair. Don't know if I can. Doesn't make sense to me. Soooo, now that you have compassion for him, try to forgive him for the hurt first, that is a start! <BR>Almost ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>-------<BR>TIME
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Happy, happy birthday!!!!!<P>Lori
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUZY Q!!!<BR>
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Happy Birthday Suzie Q!!! I can't help you on the forgiveness, I'm struggling with that one too. Hope you have a great day!
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Thank you everyone for all your heartfelt wishes!! I certainly started my day with a big smile.
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Hi Suzy Q!<P>Thanks for the reply. It's so hard, but I will keep in there and try to hope and pray a lot. We had another confrontation. I wish I could just stop it. I wanted him to tell me if he was still seeing her and whether or not she was still contacting him. I got the answer I dreaded and he went on to tell me how much life is hell here with me. He said he doesn't think he wants to end it. But then, this morning after I couldn't help waking up crying, he gave me several long 10-minute hugs before he went to work. I'm so confused. He was so sweet and tender. It made my day, even tho the reality is still there. I was actually able to smile and talk to people again.<P>Anyway, I do live by the Ann Arbor area, actually I live East of Hell (for real). Do you have children? I'd like to know what you did to get past this. I don't think this "chemistry" thing he says he has with the OW is going to die. They work at the same place and I don't trust him. I could type all day, but I went shopping for myself today and it felt good for once. I haven't done anything for myself in a long time. Whenever I get extra money, I always end up buying the kids or the H stuff.<P>I just want off the rollercoaster before I throw up. Would love to hear what happened it you don't mind the repeat. I might find something helpful for my situation. Especially since I feel so alone here.<P>Take care and congratulations on him coming back where he belongs - happy late birthday!<BR>
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I LOVE THESE STORIES!!! GIVES US ALL HOPE!! PRAISE GOD FOR FIXING YOUR MARRIAGE AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! MAYBE ALL THE "HAPPY" ENDINGS SHOULD TAKE A CRUISE TOGETHER SOMEDAY!! WHAT A PARTY THAT WILL BE!! HOLD THE BOAT FOR ME, I THINK I NEED A COUPLE OF MONTHS!! YESSSSSSSSSS!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>desperate
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Hurt Bad, Thanks for your reply.Your situation sounds so much like mine (H worked with the Bimbo). I know where Hell is ,I drive thru Hell to get to Pinckney. I would<BR>love to meet up with you if you want to ( we have alot in common) You can cry on my shoulders. Please be in touch! I could also use<BR>a friend in this new state.
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Hi Please Help, Thank you for your kind wishes. I truly appreciate your's and everyone's thoughtfulness!
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CONGRATS!!!<BR>More happy endings is what we need to hear. <P>I'm so happy for your success!
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Hap-hap-happy Birthday ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif) <P>I know time heals all... just waiting...<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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New Beginning ,<BR>Thank you so much for taking the time to send me Birthday wishes. I appreciate that.<BR>Yes, time heals but it will never be forgotten.I am still stuck on the forgiveness issue. We have been doing ok without me forgiving him.I know that when I'm ready he will be the first one to know.<P>------------------<BR>
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Hi Suzy Q<P>I happen to live in Pinckney. We will have to get together. I'm not on the net often, like now, it's been a couple of days since I checked this site. I'll keep it in mind and maybe sometime we could meet over at McD's or something one afternoon when my little guy is in preschool. I'm finding a few good people around here (mostly from my church) that are keeping me semi-sane. Monday I'm meeting with someone from church who is going to help me by babysitting for me while we go to our first counseling meeting. What makes it harder for me is that the holidays are coming and I still have to make my one sons costume - like I'm really in the mood to sew! But I'm going to force myself and I need to start using my time more wisely rather than sitting around thinking and going nuts. He says he has to go into work tomorrow (Sunday). It may be nothing because his job has always been that way. But I don't trust him automatically. The only thing that is good now is that he is treating me well, and the kids, and he seems to not have totally lost his sex drive for me. I was worried she had taken that away from us. Well, I'll check back. Good luck to you and God bless.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!<BR>HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!<BR>HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR SUZY Q!!!<BR>HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!<BR>AND MANY MORE!
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