Am I just paranoid.

My STBX, the D will be final very VERY soon. I recently learned that even though our D is 4 months old, she is already engaged to a man, (not the guy she had the A with), and she has only known him for roughly 2 or 3 months.

She lives in a one bedroom apartment. She shares her bedroom with the kids on the nights they are over there. Her bed is right next to the kids bunkbeds. She told me that she shares her bed with this guy even on nights they are over there.

Am I just being paranoid because I have a problem with this arrangement? I feel it is unappropriate for her to share her bedroom with the kids... married or not, with another guy. I am really thinking about contesting the parenting plan, and pushing for custody until she can uncheapen up and spring for a 2 bedroom apartment.

Is my spider-sense going off about this justified?

I would def. go back to court regarding the parenting plan & push for no co-habitating. If she has any respect for the children she will gladly abide. You are right, it is very unappropriate.

I guess that is why I am asking about this. She honestly thinks I am pushing this 2 bedroom thing because she thinks I am doing it to be an A-hole and postpone the D. In reality I only want them to get the kids their own room so they don't accidently get woken up one morning when they both wake up horny. She thinks there is nothing wrong with everyone sleeping in one room...

"trust me, we won't do anything in there when the kids are here... "

Yeah right.

Hahahaha! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Honestly, the one thing that my Ex and the OW have done right - if you can call it that - since they got together is not force the kids to sleep in the same room as them (when they took them on holiday with them etc - they already have a 2 bed apartment).

Obviously DD14 is too old to sleep with them anyway, but I did have my worries about DD7 being forced to sleep with them.

It never happened. Though I doubt it has anything to do with the 'moral fiber' of either of them - they just like to get in on in peace, I guess. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Once things are final you may very well regret you didn't fight this, as it will be much tougher to do afterwards.

Stand up for what is right for your kids. What she is doing is so VERY inappropriate. Kids from divorced families are left with a negative enough legacy as it is to have to fight against. You can be the one that makes all the difference for them.

Demand only the best for them.

I wish you all the best. I'm just starting a somewhat similar fight for my daughter as well.