haven't written a plan B letter.
plan A isn't going real well. (see post above) i feel like i'm wanting him to plan A me.
maybe i'm not cut out for the MB plan.

This is it in a nutshell fo. You must expect that there is contact, and that he will lie.

Of course you are tired, hurt, angry and with a baby and job too. You have a lot on your plate so it is only natural for you to withdrawl and lose your fight.

And he probably should be Plan A'g you, but that is not how it works unfortunately.

If you do a really good Plan A though, it might save your marriage and give you a recovered FWH and a really great marriage. And if not, well you will be so much better off for it and go into the future knowing you did all you could do for your marriage as well as for your baby.

Snap out of it FO. No plan B right now. Your Plan A has not had a lot of time to take effect. You need a good plan A in order to make a good plan B.

I would try to plan as much time together with your H as you can. You are with him when he is not in the office. You are:

1. Happy
2. Looking good when he sees you
3. No BL
4. Have things to do that include him and your baby.
5. Upbeat

Things like this. You will be showing WH the best you you can be. He will notice some of it and may never tell you this, but it will come thru to him. One of two things will come from this.
1. He will start to see you again and lose intrest in OW.
or
2. He will cake eat. Now if that happens when you get to Plan B down the road he will miss the things that you brought to the M. The happy wife that looked nice everyday.


I would plan A until 4-15-07 and see if he leaves the job.

This whole thing is kinda like a sick dance

Good post Maybe.

Harley recommends 3 months for women, so that would be about right...until 4/05/07

Are you up to it forgivingone?

Gain strength and support here, as you have been. It really helps during Plan A to have support.

good advice M2L
i will try to be happy and upbeat. i know that my "down" mood has effected him negatively
i don't want to have any regrets. so i'll try

thanks!

Good. One thing about Plan A is that you become this person filled with beauty and grace. It's like "Wow, look at me. Is this really me? Look out Grace Kelly!" It's really very impowering and brings about a restored self-esteem.